[Rayne] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
[Niles] I really want to tell Matilda tonight about
postponing the marriage.
But right now, the courage is
kind of leaving me here.
[Matilda speaking]
But I don't think I can keep my hands off him.
[laughs]
[Niles and Matilda moan]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
[in English] Just got back from the clinic.
Faith needs some space.
She doesn't want to see me right now.
What are you going to do?
[Loren] I don't know.
The only thing I care about now is getting back to Faith.
I just hope she gives me a second chance.
Whatever. You shake another girl's hand in front of me...
-It's okay. -...and I'm not allowed to.
-You are next to me. -That's gonna be a [bleep] problem.
I am not alone.
[Tigerlily] Adnan shaking Shay's hand,
It's a complete double standard.
You make me so angry and so stressful.
[Tigerlily] I'm not going to be in a relationship with
someone that doesn't respect me.
[Thaer] Where are you going?
[Shay speaking]
Why do you look so angry?
I've been getting like a real dark energy off Victoria.
My gut is never wrong. Never wrong.
I was just wondering if you would feel
comfortable to, like, stay
in a hotel room with me.
[Chidi speaking]
-It's no-- -Hey, hey!
You care more what people
-and your family think... -No.
...versus us.
Well, I'm far beyond "your little beliefs."
[Adnan speaking]
[in Arabic]
[in English]
[in Arabic]
[in English]
[Thaer] Where are you going?
[Thaer] Tigerlily, wait.
-[Cruz] She's really mad, like, for real. -[Shay] Oh, yeah.
[Thaer speaking]
I've just been like
working really hard to make sure that
I'm doing things to make him happy.
Yeah.
[Tigerlily] And always thinking about him.
Don't cry, please. Please, Tigerlily.
Don't cry, please. Come on, take this.
-[Tigerlily] Thank you. -[Thaer] You're welcome.
[Tigerlily] I don't know if he thinks that he has different rules
-than me. If he can do that-- -[Thaer] No, is rules...
You and him.
Adnan really love you.
Very much love you.
Baby, why are you crying?
[Tigerlily] I've been trying really hard
to follow all of Adnan's rules.
I've been completely open
to changing my entire life.
But he just thinks that the rules don't apply to him.
If he's not following them,
I'm not gonna follow them.
-[Adnan speaking] -No.
[Adnan] Baby.
-Please. I'm so sorry. -So, do you want me to pretend then?
-Do you want me to pretend like it's okay? -No. No, no, no.
-And then just go with you? -No, no, I will...
But I don't.
I don't know.
But do you see how it's, like, hypocritical?
Like, for me...
-I know. Yeah. -...you're telling me things
-and then, like, you do it. -Yeah, yeah, I understand. Yeah. Yeah.
[Tigerlily] I do.
-Yeah? -But it doesn't mean I'm happy.
It doesn't mean that I want to go have fun.
But, of course, if you apologize,
then I'll accept your apology.
[Tigerlily] A hug? Yes, of course. You can have a hug.
-Okay? -Okay.
[Tigerlily] I have accepted Adnan's apology
to get through the day.
But this conversation is definitely not over.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] I am Adnan's first relationship.
And it's obvious
that he's not used to having a woman
call him out on his behavior.
But I'm not the type of woman that
is just going to let it go.
[Adnan speaking]
Wow.
[Adnan speaking]
Oh, my God.
[Tigerlily gasps]
Oh, wow.
[Adnan] Whoa. It's amazing.
Baby.
-[Adnan] Very pretty. -[Tigerlily] Amazing.
Oh, my God.
[Tigerlily] Petra is gorgeous.
It feels so special to be here with my husband,
just looking at all these beautiful things.
They're so cute. [chuckles]
Okay.
You good?
[Adnan chuckles softly]
[Tigerlily speaking]
-[Adnan speaking] -[Tigerlily] Yeah.
Even though we have some things
that we need to work on,
I can tell that he really loves me
and cares about me.
He's my husband, and that's what matters.
[Adnan speaking]
-Yeah. [laughs] -[laughs]
Hey.
I'm taken back a little bit.
Earlier, she was, like, really
standing up for herself.
But then they just
put a pin in it,
and they're gonna sweep it underneath the rug.
[Cruz] They're happy now,
but I feel that it will be
difficult for them to kind of
figure out all these cultural differences.
[Shay] Especially whenever she goes back to the States
and he stays in Jordan.
I feel like the newness is gonna wear off
and the fairytale ends,
and what is that going to look like?
[Adnan] I love you.
[Tigerlily laughs]
[Adnan speaking]
[Rayne speaking]
Yesterday, I reached a breaking point with Victoria.
I'm done with her constant judgment.
So I asked Chidi to move to a hotel with me,
but I never got a real answer.
He says he loves me,
but now it's time to prove it.
-Want to go sit down? -[Chidi] Okay.
[Chidi speaking]
Um, I'm packing a little.
-[Chidi] Packing? -Yes.
The offer still stands if you want to go hang out
at the hotel.
What arrangements do you have to do?
Like what?
Um...
You act like you have a whole wardrobe,
you got, like, freakin' three pairs of panties,
two pairs of socks and a couple of t-shirts. Like, what do you want?
When you sit there and say you have to prepare,
it's actually some bull[bleep].
And quite humiliating, actually,
that you'd use that excuse, that you have to prepare.
That's quite pathetic.
[Chidi] I don't know what to tell Rayne right now.
I tried explaining things to her
about my vow...
So it's like I'm dating three people.
Do you really want to lose me forever?
-Lose you? -[Rayne] Yep, forever.
-I... -By playing these little games.
Chidi, I'm looking for a man.
I'm looking for a man that can make his own decisions and move on.
Do you realize if you had
already given me everything that I wanted,
I would have dropped everything in my existence for you.
But nothing was ever enough.
You still got to ask mommy and daddy in the next room, okay?
-That's not enough. -[Chidi] Okay.
[Rayne] Um, being here
with you and your family like this
is not gonna help our relationship at all.
I feel like an intruder.
One, an intruder in your pants.
And two, an intruder in the house. Okay?
Okay, you know what?
Babe, I don't want you to leave.
Well, it doesn't matter about what you want.
Like I said, it's all about action.
-Babe-- -When you refuse to be with me in a certain location,
I'm done.
We can't even be in the same room, okay?
-[Chidi] Wait-- -Make sure your sister won't
go over there and check on me either.
But my sister has not been intruding on our affairs.
You enjoy the fact that she's checking on you and making sure...
She's my sister. She has the right
-to check up on me. -[Rayne] I don't care what--
-[Chidi speaking] -[Rayne] Okay, okay.
[Rayne] You can think
-whatever the heck you want. -[Chidi] No, no, no.
[Rayne] Put it in your head, okay?
I don't know why Chidi can't see the truth about his sister.
She's controlling Chidi.
That's why she's always checking on him.
And I'm the bad guy for trying to break him free?
Bull[bleep]!
-[Bernard speaking] -[Rayne] I didn't know you were there. Sorry.
[Rayne] Oh.
[Rayne] I'm not gonna resolve it.
I've tried.
-[Rayne] Uh-huh. -About your leaving.
-There's a reason. There's a reason for that. -Right!
Because of what happened. There's a happened.
-There's a reason. -[Chidi] ...all the way from U.S.,
you told me that you can't cope with her.
I can't cope with sisters.
I always felt deep down.
-[Chidi] You said you can't... -There was a reason
-I never... -You see now.
-See what happened? Pssh. -You said you can't cope with sisters.
[Rayne] Shut up, Chidi.
Oh, gosh.
I am deeply horrified
by the way
Rayne is acting towards me...
No. Did you not just see how he yelled at me?
I'm done with him. Okay? When he said
he would stick up for me,
like I said, even if it's family, you need to
tell them when they're wrong.
You know what? Obviously, he...
[Rayne] Now he feels...
[Rayne] Okay, now it's a little thing.
[Rayne] Now it's a little thing.
You took everything out of hand.
[Rayne] You... Okay.
[Rayne] Why are you inviting me?
Why did you invite me if you hate me?
Why did you get on the phone and say, "I love you"?
-[Victoria] Of course, you... -"I love you.
Come over. We want you."
[Victoria speaking]
I don't like you, because you do this and that.
Okay? I'm done. Okay?
[Victoria speaking]
You know what? That's what I'm saying.
The fact that I'm delusional after all this...
[Rayne] Okay. Okay.
If you can't see, then I--
[Rayne grunts]
[Vanja] I'm super confident
in every aspect of my life,
but when it comes to relationships,
it's been a [bleep] show.
-[laughs] -[Bozo] Amazing.
But now I am going to Croatia to meet Bozo.
[woman speaking]
you don't even know anything about this other woman.
[Matilda] I'm happy that very soon
I'll get married to the man I love.
[Niles] I don't want to get married
right this instant.
But I think we're past the point of snowballing here.
At this point, it's turning into an avalanche.
Uh, Matilda, I have a confession to make.
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles speaking]
Okay.
[Niles speaking]
[laughs] I'm waiting for you, okay?
-[Niles speaking] -[Matilda] Love you.
[Matilda speaking]
Yesterday, after a year of waiting,
Niles has finally come to Ghana
so that we can meet for the first time.
And I'm very happy
that finally I have the man I love.
American food and real food, obviously,
I'm finding out is two totally different things.
[Matilda speaking]
Say again?
Almost, but ultimately no.
We had started getting our clothes off.
I could see Matilda was displeased by the fact that
I stopped us before things got too hot and heavy.
But when push came to shove,
somebody had to be responsible.
It was about to get heated.
Really, really heated.
Let's say I didn't keep a cooler head...
Cooler head. I really...
Head. [chuckles]
I'm gonna use a different word than head, okay?
Uh, Matilda, I have a confession to make.
I've made mistakes in the past in relationships.
[Matilda speaking]
Yes, we did have sex as soon as we could.
And that... And then she kept wanting more
of my attention and more.
She got very possessive of me.
I've only had one
serious relationship before Matilda.
And, you know...
Dad... Mom, Dad, please cover your ears.
Can we put that part in before we start
talking about this?
[Niles] With my ex-girlfriend, the sexual aspect
became the only aspect
of our relationship after a while.
And...
Again, I'm only human.
No, I cannot go six rounds every single day.
We are not designed...
I don't think we men are designed to do that.
We're designed to do that maybe twice a week.
With Matilda, there's more to her
than just sexually.
I do want to spend the rest of my life with her. And...
our life is not gonna be all 100% in the bedroom.
With my ex,
we jumped into the sex too early.
It can change you, you know?
[Matilda speaking]
That would probably be best.
[Matilda speaking]
[laughs]
And I'll say, "Okay,
let me actually stop and think about this.
What?
[Matilda speaking]
-[laughs] -[Niles] I love you more.
[Matilda] Oh, my God.
You got a beautiful country...
-Uh-huh. -...I have to say.
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles] Yes, that.
-You're very welcome, Mommy. -[Matilda] Mm-hmm.
Oh.
[Niles] This morning, Hayford is heading back to Kumasi,
giving me and Matilda some alone time in Accra.
And we're just gonna explore,
roam around, get to really know each other.
-[Matilda] I love you. -[Niles] I love you more.
I'm glad that Matilda agreed
to wait until marriage to have sex.
Now, the question is,
how difficult does this become for her
when she realizes that
I don't want to get married right this instant?
What is that?
[Matilda speaking]
-[shrieks] -Poisonous. That's poisonous.
[Matilda speaking]
-[Niles] Yes, it is. -No, it's not poison.
[Niles] Yes, they are.
Please listen to me.
[Matilda speaking]
[Niles] No. No. No.
No.
[laughs]
[Niles] Yeah, I do.
Maybe it's not poisonous.
But I don't want my hand
to swell up to the size of my head
for me to find out whether it was or wasn't.
I am a--
Yes, I am a man,
but that doesn't mean I have to be stupid.
[Matilda laughs]
[Niles] Let's not disturb that, all right?
I believe that
you don't have to take unnecessary risks
to be a man.
-[Matilda] Woo. -[Niles] Be very, very careful here.
[Matilda] I'm fine.
[vocalizing]
[Matilda] I'm happy that very soon
I'll get married to the man I love.
-Right? -That's right.
[Matilda] Mm-hmm.
My mom's family,
friends, pastors,
they are coming to our wedding.
Tell me, what exactly
is the marriage process over here?
[Matilda speaking]
-[Niles] The knocking? -[Matilda] Uh-huh.
You have to go...
-Right? -Right.
[Matilda speaking]
In Ghana, we have knocking ceremony
before two people can get married.
And the family of the bride
give a list of items
for the groom to bring on the day
of the traditional marriage.
So how much is, um, the bride price?
You know, like, what part of that is the bride price?
I don't know, baby. I don't know.
But don't worry. I have told
my mom and my uncle to do that.
-Interesting. Okay. -Mm-hmm. [chuckles]
-I'm going to dance that day. -All right.
Of course.
-Right? -Right.
[Matilda laughs]
[Niles] As Matilda is explaining the knocking ceremony,
and that there are 200 people plus
showing up for the wedding,
I think we're past the point of snowballing here.
At this point,
it's turning into an avalanche.
The kind that
swallows all of the skiers up
and there's no survivors.
It's gonna be really hard to cancel that.
I don't know. We...
I just honestly don't know.
I don't know how I'm gonna navigate this.
["Wild And Dangerous" playing]
[people cheering]
♪♪ Yeah ♪
♪♪ Come take a walk On the wild side, baby ♪
♪♪ Wild and dangerous ♪
♪♪ No need to worry about me ♪
♪♪ 'Cause I'm wild And dangerous ♪
♪♪ And I be living On the edge ♪
♪♪ Wild and dangerous ♪
♪♪ No need to worry about me ♪
♪♪ 'Cause I'm wild And dangerous ♪
♪♪ And I be living On the edge ♪
[people cheering]
My name is Vanja. I'm 41 years old.
And I'm from Orlando, Florida.
[people cheering]
I love dressing up in beautiful costumes
and wearing sparkles and glitter and heels.
So that's the reason why I love belly dancing.
I just find it absolutely exhilarating.
It makes me feel full of life,
full of energy.
I really love expanding myself
and pushing myself to achieve and learn new things.
Like, I was at a festival
on a beach and I saw a guy blowing fire.
And I go, "Ooh, I want to do that."
And then I talked to him,
we stayed in the parking lot until midnight until I was
brave enough to swallow some fire.
So this is kind of how I live my life.
[people cheering]
[Vanja] At first, I thought belly dancing was going to be
just a hobby. But,
for me, nothing really stays a hobby for that long.
At 6:00 p.m.
Will that work?
Okay, awesome. All right. Just make sure
no alcohol and no caffeine on the day off.
Perfect.
I have four careers.
In addition to dancing,
I'm a professional permanent makeup artist.
I'm a vegan baker.
And I'm a medical sales rep.
I'm definitely a type A personality.
Jill of all trades. [laughs]
It's a lot of work. Work never stops.
[chuckles]
I work day and night, but I don't mind it.
I have my own house, my own car.
I'm super confident in
every aspect of my life.
But when it comes to dating and relationships...
Eleven years ago, I met the man
I thought I would spend the rest of my life with.
We actually got engaged on the Great Wall in China.
[laughs] That was cool.
But we started having some arguments,
and I couldn't really figure out what was going on.
And then one day, I came over to his house,
and I caught him making out with a girl on the couch. [laughs]
It was like a scene from a movie
playing in slow motion. It was really bad.
I figured out that
the whole relationship was a lie.
He literally led a double life.
Um, so that came as a complete shock.
And it has been
super hard to bounce back.
There we go. That's a lot better.
I'm originally from Bosnia. In Eastern Europe.
So eight months ago, I took
a solo trip back home
to reconnect
with my culture, my country, my people,
and get my groove back.
I went to Serbia, Bosnia, Slovenia, and Croatia.
I just went to a lot of different cities
that I've never been to before...
It was late night. I was bored,
and I was swiping through a dating app.
And it was like, whoa!
Oh, my God. Absolute perfection.
His name is Bozo.
He's a basketball player who's very successful.
I've never dated an athlete before,
and he's very hot.
Like, really hot.
He has a six-pack that I want to wash some laundry on.
[laughs]
It was an immediate swipe right.
And then he didn't respond
until I already left the city.
It was already time for me to go back home.
But we started talking,
and it just continued over time.
And every time I hear
that ding on the phone from him,
I go like, "Ooh! Butterflies.
What does he have to say right now?
Can't wait." [laughs]
I like the nice, clean-shaven look.
You had scruffy a few days ago.
[laughs] What?
We talk all the time.
And Bozo has
a super fun and interesting sense of humor.
I really love that he makes me laugh.
That has been
such a pleasant change
from other men that I've dated in the past.
[laughs] I'm dying.
Now I am going to Croatia
to meet him for the first time.
And I'm really looking forward
to see where this can go
once we are together in real life.
[exclaims] There she is.
-[woman] Oh, hey. -[Vanja] Oh, my God.
Oh, my goodness.
Fabiana is a very good friend of mine.
We've known each other for 17 years at this point.
Yay! I'm so glad you came.
-[Fabiana] You're always in heels. -[Vanja] I am.
-[Fabiana] Always in heels. -[Vanja] But these are... I don't think these count
as heels. These are wedges.
[both laugh]
[Fabiana] Yes, yes.
Vanja is amazing.
But she's been through a lot in her past relationships.
I have, you know,
held her crying, sobbing,
you know, running mascara, ugly cry self
for many years.
Um, my hope is that, you know,
more days smiling, fewer days crying.
Uh, a little dehydrated.
You know, the schedule never stops, so...
You're saying this like
you don't make your own schedule. Like...
-I am my own worst enemy. This is true. -[Fabiana] Yeah.
[Vanja] Oh, look at these nuts.
[vendor] How are you doing? You want some...
-[Vanja] Good. How are you? -[Fabiana] Yes.
-Thank you. -[vendor] All right.
[Fabiana] So are you excited?
You're finally gonna see this guy.
I can't believe it's finally happening.
It's only been eight months in making, so...
[both laugh]
[Fabiana] Well, I'm excited for you.
-[Vanja] Yeah. -[Fabiana] I'm excited for you to,
you know, actually be able to
-see, touch, feel. -[Vanja] Thank you. Right.
[Fabiana] But I just want to make sure that you really,
you know, evaluated every side of this,
because, you know,
it's not like it's been smooth sailing with this guy.
Like, you already know
that he's capable of hurting you
because he already has hurt you.
[Vanja] A few months into the relationship,
I was planning my trip
to go visit him in Croatia.
And then all of a sudden, I noticed Bozo was
acting a little strange,
not picking up the phones, not being as communicative.
And then I get a phone call from Bozo
and he just says, uh,
"Vanja, I can't see you anymore.
I'm seeing somebody here.
Sorry."
And that was it.
This was a man that I cared so much about.
I'm planning this entire future out with him.
And, um, it's just,
it's devastating.
Yes. That was a horrible thing.
But the way that I look at that is,
A, he was honest. He told me.
And then he obviously woke up and saw
that he missed out on something amazing.
A couple of months later, he texted me and he said,
"I'm no longer with the other girl,
and I would really like to work on this again."
Even though I was really upset,
I decided that
I don't want to live my life in the world of what-ifs.
So that's the reason why I decided
to try to pursue this again.
[Fabiana] You don't even know anything
about this other woman.
Like, what, you know, who is she?
How do you know they're not still talking?
[Vanja] I don't know. That's why I want to go there and see.
But you know how hard it is
for me to find somebody that I like.
He encompasses all the things that I really love.
So I'm not letting this one go.
I think that Vanja, generally,
she's going for
men who fit a checklist.
And so she doesn't do a lot of
due diligence, and a lot of
really nasty stuff
sort of gets uncovered,
but after she's very attached.
It doesn't sound like
he's as serious as you are.
And I just want to make sure that
you make sure that you're on the same page.
-And now I'm just trying-- -At this point,
I feel like we're in a good place.
He showed me, um,
you know, that he is
about this.
That he wants to pursue this and see where it goes.
I've been single for six years.
And I felt like this was like a dead vault.
And I feel things again.
And I feel it because of him.
As painful as it was
to hear that Bozo was seeing someone else,
ever since we got back together,
he's been more dedicated, more responsive.
He says that he loves me.
We talk about potential of marriage.
So I hope that this just ends up being a small little blip
in our big story of love.
[chuckles] And that things just keep getting
better and better going forward,
because if I lose him again,
I just don't know how I would recover.
-I hope you're right. -Yeah.
-'Cause I love you and I want you to be happy. -Thank you.
-Hello. -[woman, in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] Hello, hello.
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] As excited as I am
to meet Ingrid's friends, I'm also worried
because if I don't fit into this part of her life,
it could be another setback to the relationship.
[Brian] All right, let's go.
[horns honks]
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
[Brian chuckles]
-[Ingrid] Ay. -[Brian] Wow.
-Wow. Wow. -[Brian] Wow.
[Brian, in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
-[Ingrid, in English] Okay? -[Brian, in English] Okay.
[Brian, in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] I'm excited about dinner with her friends.
I came to Gurupi
with the intentions of
getting into Ingrid's life,
being a part of who she is.
This table?
Go ahead.
Uh, I'm gonna go around.
I'm gonna go this way.
But as excited as I am to meet Ingrid's friends,
I'm also worried, because if I don't fit into this
part of her life,
I mean, it could be another setback to the relationship.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
-Hello. -[woman, in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] Hello, hello.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] Brian.
Vilany. Okay.
[in Portuguese]
Vania. Vania.
[in Portuguese]
[Brian speaking]
[in Portuguese]
[Andrea speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Vilany speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Andrea and Vilany laugh]
[Brian laughs]
[both exclaiming]
[Brian, in English] Ingrid's friends are encouraging us to be together,
and it seems like
she's definitely more, like, open to it.
So I'm hoping that
tonight would be finally the night
that we get to the intimate level of our relationship.
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] I'm excited by that,
but at the same time, there's a lot of pressure.
She's never had sex with someone in a wheelchair.
So there's always a chance that it could go bad.
I just hope that tonight
brings us together, both emotionally and physically.
[Loren] I'm sorry I cheated on you.
Maybe, like, once a week.
Yes.
[doorbell rings]
-[Loren] Hello. -Hello.
Did you want to come in, or...
-I'm not comfortable to go inside. -[Loren] Hm.
I think we can go outside, maybe in the park.
Mm-hmm. Okay.
Let's go.
I texted Faith around 9:00 a.m. this morning,
just to see
if she's willing to have a conversation with me.
And after many long hours of waiting,
she finally texted back, "Okay."
Obviously, she deserves an apology.
And I want to tell her that
I'm willing to be monogamous.
But that's if she even wants a relationship with me after this.
Right now,
I'm still afraid we might not have a future.
[Faith speaking]
[Loren] Yeah, okay.
[in Filipino]
[in English] Thank you.
[Faith, in English] I am very upset.
Loren is my first love.
I had such high hopes for us.
And I can't believe he betrayed me.
I want to meet him tonight because...
[Loren] I went to the clinic this morning.
I get the medicine.
So, in one week, it's gone.
[Loren] Done.
[Faith speaking]
Yeah.
I know.
We're in this situation
because I messed up,
but...
I felt like I was communicating
that I was sleeping with people,
but clearly you didn't...
understand that.
[tense music playing]
Not every house,
but maybe like once a week.
Yes.
I do love you.
And I do care about you.
I want to be with you--
in a relationship with you.
I'm not going to sleep with anybody else.
I'm not going to look at anybody else.
I'm sorry I cheated on you.
I know.
I don't plan on doing it again.
The rest of my life,
only with you.
Yeah.
[Faith speaking off-screen]
I was really excited to tell my family
that I have a boyfriend.
And they are so very happy to meet him.
But they wouldn't want me to be with someone
who would treat me like this.
So you don't want to introduce as boyfriend?
What, just "This guy"?
Yeah.
So I'm happy to be your friend for right now.
And hopefully, I can become boyfriend again.
And then one day, real fiance.
So this does mean you're giving me a second chance.
[tense music playing]
I'm very happy you're giving me a second chance.
And I'm okay taking it slow.
And no matter what, it's just me and you.
-Yeah. -Forever.
-Okay. -Okay?
[Faith speaking off-screen] I still love Loren,
and I'm not ready to throw this relationship away.
But Loren will have to work hard
to prove he cares about me.
-Let's go. Yeah. -You ready?
[Faith] I'm hoping
he's still the Loren I have feelings for,
because right now,
I feel like I don't know him.
So you're gonna wear all this stuff,
all this sexy stuff.
When was the last time you had sex?
Oh, my God, six years ago.
[Sanela] Six years?
[chuckles]
My friends, they call me the sex camel. [chuckles]
But six years is a long time,
and the sex camel is starting to get thirsty
[chuckling] if you know what I mean.
[Rayne] Chidi, you better stick up for me here.
Did I not always tell you
that I always had a feeling about sisters?
-[dramatic music playing] -[Chidi speaking off-screen]
Woo, woo, woo. [shushes]
-She's fine. She's not-- -[Rayne] Calm down.
[Chidi speaking off-screen]
-It's all right. It's all right. -[Rayne] Be calm.
[lilting music playing]
[Vanja] This is American buttercream.
I constantly have cake orders that come in all the time,
so, you know, you can't help it
but [chuckling] sample your product.
[doorbell chiming]
-[ladies squealing] -[Vanja] Oh, my God!
-[Sanela exclaims] -[Vanja] Yay!
In two days,
I'm going to meet Bozo,
and I am beside myself.
-I am so happy. -[both laughing]
[Vanja speaking off-screen] My cousin Sanela is here
to help pick out my outfits for Croatia.
-I know. -It's been so long.
-Feels like forever. -I know.
-I cut you up some fruit. -Ooh.
[Sanela speaking off-screen] Me and Vanja talk every day.
We call each other sisters 'cause we think the same.
[Vanja] So excited.
[Sanela] I have doubts about Bozo
just due to the past of him breaking up with her
for another relationship.
But I still support her.
I can see why she likes him, and...
I just hope this relationship works out.
She's looking for her life partner
to share her life with,
and that's what I wish for her more than anything else.
-This fits you? -Yes.
-No. -Yes!
-It's perfect. -It's tiny.
-And then, and then this-- -Yeah. So you--
This is what you're going to wear next to him.
Well, that's-- I'm thinking.
If not those, then these for sure.
These are a little bit more reasonable.
[Sanela] Oh, I remember when you got those in Vegas.
-Aww. -[laughing] I know.
[Sanela] Good times.
So you're going to wear all this stuff,
all this sexy stuff.
Where are you staying?
Are you staying with him?
Actually, I went ahead and I got my own--
um, I got my own place,
because he's living with his mom and his aunt.
What is the reason why he lives with his mother?
I'm pretty sure he was trying to save up
'cause he said that, uh, hopefully
he's going to be getting an apartment soon.
He's a basketball player. He's successful.
Like, does he get paid doing playing, whatever?
He does,
but he's a basketball player in Croatia, okay?
It's not like he plays for the NBA.
But is he going to join you
and spend time with you?
I think so.
It's been how many years?
When was the last time you had sex?
[Vanja] Oh, my God.
It was like six years ago.
Six years?
[Vanja laughing]
My friends have this lovely nickname for me.
They call me the sex camel. [laughing]
Camels can go a very, very long time
without drinking water.
Apparently, I have the same ability
when it comes to sex.
I don't do one-night stands
or sex without feelings.
There has to be a feeling of trust and comfort.
And since, well, my last relationship ended,
I just haven't found that.
Uh, but six years is a long time,
and the sex camel is starting to get thirsty,
[laughing] if you know what I mean.
So are you hoping for it?
Of course.
I think he's extremely hot,
and we connect on so many different levels.
Culture in Croatia and Bosnia is different,
yet there are similarities.
-So he's very-- -You know, he feels like home to me.
Yeah, of course he does, yeah.
[tense music playing]
At first, growing up in Bosnia was
the most magical childhood.
But then when I was about 10 years old,
the whole country separated, broke into pieces,
and a war started.
We went to visit my grandparents.
We were actually getting in the car
to start driving back home.
And then we just saw missiles exploding.
[explosion]
[Vanja] The night sky was just lit up,
the ground was shaking,
and that was it.
We were never able to go back home.
We ended up having to stay at my grandma's house.
We had no electricity for a year,
we had no water for a year.
We ended up boiling flour and onions,
and we called that the black soup,
and that's what we ate for months.
We got bombed all the time.
I was almost killed on a couple of occasions
that I know of.
I will never forget sitting in basements
for days at a time
because, you know, the air raids are happening,
bombs are dropping everywhere,
and you're just feeling the ground shake.
And then you're just--
you don't know if the next one that drops is
going to come on top of you.
To have to go through
that level of stress and trauma as a child,
it is absolutely devastating.
You know, in Croatia,
the war has not been as long or as devastating
as it was in Bosnia,
but his family was affected by it
just like everybody else from former Yugoslavia.
Yeah.
So he understands what we had to overcome
and that it's scars that we carry...
on our hearts.
-I know. -It's always--
It's always part of who we are.
But we did. We did it.
-I know. -I'm proud of us.
We're survivors. [chuckles]
I'm proud for what we've accomplished.
-Yeah. -And...
-[sobbing] -...you seem really seriously taking this relationship.
You're really serious about him.
And you have really high hopes for happy ending,
which I truly, like, wish that for you...
-[softly] I know. -...more than anything in the world.
I know.
When things like that happen to you
and you experience that near-death feeling
that completely changes the way you think,
the way you feel,
everything about you.
And you choose to take the life on by the horns
and just take advantage of every opportunity
that comes your way.
[Sanela sniffles]
[Vanja] I know that Bozo could potentially hurt me again.
But I can't just give up
because he's everything
that I've been looking for in a guy.
And I definitely deserve
to have love in my life finally.
[sniffles]
[melancholic music playing]
[upbeat music playing]
[man speaking indistinctly]
[Matilda speaking]
-[Niles] Kudu? -[Matilda laughing]
Kudu. Kudu?
I don't-- I--
[Matilda speaking]
[Matilda laughing]
[Niles] Dang.
[Matilda speaking off-screen] Today, my babe,
he's planning to take me out for a shopping.
And I am very happy
because the shopping in Accra is
far better than Kumasi.
And I am really excited
to show Niles more of the city.
[Niles] Ooh, that is...
Is that dust I smell?
[Matilda] Mm-hmm.
[chuckles]
How much you want to bet that's getting all over us?
[Matilda chuckles]
For me, Accra, I compare it to New York City.
[truck honks]
[Niles] There's a lot of people out and about
selling things on the streets.
There's pedestrians everywhere.
[vehicle honks]
[Niles] While I may not appear to be overstimulated,
I feel it all here,
behind my eyes, my head.
-[car engine revving] -[van honks]
[Niles] Usually I would...
avoid going to certain places like this,
being out and about during the busiest times of the day.
But I do believe that when you're in love,
you should step out of your comfort zone
to make your partner happy.
So it's one of those things where I just grin and bear it.
-[Matilda] Good afternoon. -[doorman] Good afternoon.
Good afternoon, everybody.
-[Matilda speaking] -[Niles] Hmm.
I think maybe this one might look better.
It's a little easier on my eyes.
[Matilda] Nice.
Do you want me to try it?
I think you could try that one. You could try that one.
Maybe I can try this on the show?
Can you bring it for me?
Thank you.
Okay.
Just understand that I may not be able to buy
every single thing.
[tense music playing]
Right now, Matilda may have
a different idea of my money situation than...
than what's actually the case.
I don't know if she thinks all Americans are rich,
but I'm certainly not.
[Matilda] Babe.
Wow.
-[Matilda speaking] -How much does this dress cost?
If you convert it, it'll be $80.
-[Niles] It'll be 80... -...dollars, please.
[Matilda speaking]
Let's go ahead-- Let's go ahead and ring it up.
[Matilda] Thank you.
Oh, when I heard the price on this dress,
I thought, "Absolutely, hell no."
And then I remembered,
"Oh, wait, there's a bigger bomb coming later
when I have to tell her
that we have to postpone the wedding plans."
-We can go? -Yes, we can.
-[Matilda] Thank you. -[saleswoman] Okay, bye.
[Matilda chuckles]
Hmm.
[Matilda] What are we doing here, babe?
Just-just-just just follow me for right now.
Okay, babe.
So maybe I get the skirt for her
and that-- to-- maybe take off the pressure
just a little bit.
[clears throat] Remember when you said
you needed your nails done?
[Matilda] Wow. You always surprise me.
-I know. -Thank you.
Thank you.
Hi, good evening.
[woman] Miss, you may have a seat here.
[Matilda] Okay, thank you. Okay.
[Niles] Are you good?
I'm fine. [chuckles]
-Okay. -[chuckles]
I'll be back.
Babe, where are you going?
It's your first time in Ghana.
I know, but don't worry. I have my GPS, okay?
I want to try to--
Actually, I'm exploring this place myself.
-Are you sure? -I'm positive.
-[Matilda] Love you. -[Niles] I love you more.
[woman] Good evening.
How are you, sir?
[Niles] I'm doing good. I'm just--
Right now, I'm just looking at engagement rings.
Okay.
So all these ones here in the front are
just engagement rings.
-[Niles] Mm-hmm. -So you can look at these ones, please.
I know that I've already proposed to Matilda
over the phone,
but I just feel the need to do this in person.
And...
I'm thinking that,
around the same time I present this ring to her,
it could be a good idea to tell Matilda
that we need to postpone the wedding.
Wait, okay, keep going.
Keep going to the left.
I don't know if that's going to mitigate the anger,
but this is honestly the best idea I have.
How much would one cost?
Um...
You can get...
from 3,500 Cedis upwards, please.
How much would that be in, say, US dollars?
3,500, that would be about $290.
$290.
This was $234 after the discount.
Hmm.
The ring is actually integral to what I want to do, so...
I would like to-- Uh-- I would like to get this ring.
Since I've arrived in Ghana,
Matilda has turned out to be everything
that I thought she was and so much more.
I'm seeing more and more
that a real, true, happily-ever-after is possible.
To lose it now would be...
I don't even want to think of the possibility.
I just hope she can understand
that ring is a promise for me to come back and marry her.
And that my love for her is much deeper
and much more timeless
than whatever deadline that we impose on ourselves.
[woman speaking]
[Niles] Thank you.
[tense music playing]
[Shay] I'm just worried about what happens
whenever you go back to the States.
They're trying, like, to make a problem
between me and Tigerlily.
Why they do that?
That could potentially cause trust issues.
Oh, don't make my wife worried now.
[Middle eastern music playing]
[Cruz grunts]
-[Shay] There they are. -[Thaer] You are ready?
-[Adnan] Ready. -[Thaer] Yeah, let's go.
-[Shay] Let's go. -[Thaer] Yeah.
[Thaer] Yeah.
-[Shay squeals] -[Cruz whooping]
-[Cruz] Again! Again! -[all laughing]
-[Thaer] Yeah. -[Shay] Trouble.
[Tigerlily] Even though
Adnan and I got into an argument,
I still had an amazing time in Petra.
It was amazing to ride the camels
with their little outfit on and their long lashes.
I mean, I really like
[chuckling] riding anything.
[laughing]
This week is good.
This week was fun.
Yeah, fun.
[Cruz] I feel like it's gone by so fast.
Sadly, tomorrow I will be heading home to Texas.
It's hard
because now that we have had this time together,
how can I go back
to only phone and video chat?
Like, I want him with me all the time.
I like your guys' energy.
-You guys are very vibrant. -Yeah. I really like you guys.
-Thank you. -And funny.
And I feel that both of you have
very strong personalities.
[Shay chuckles] We saw a little bit of that yesterday.
And he's seen-- I don't think he's seen that before.
[Shay] But I'm just worried about the future
because you guys are in this...
honeymoon phase.
[tense music playing]
What happens whenever you go back to the States
and you guys aren't physically with one another again.
That could potentially cause
some static in your guys' marriage,
or create potential trust issues.
Then I'm worried about...
Adnan coming to the States
and then being homesick,
away from his friends and family
because that seems to be very important to him.
[Adnan] Oh.
Don't make my wife worried now.
I am with my wife forever.
Shay and Cruz, they trying,
like, to make a problem between me and Tigerlily.
Why they do that?
It's make me nervous because...
I hear everything you guys are saying,
and, you know, I'm not saying
that we're not gonna have any issues in the future,
but I'm just confident that,
'cause we love each other so much,
that we'll get through it.
Well, you know, love,
it does take a lot of love, but it's not only love.
I mean, it's...
you know, trust, communication.
[Tigerlily] Yeah.
[tense music playing]
[Tigerlily] Cruz and Shay are bringing up
all sorts of problems
that may come up
when I'm in the US.
[Cruz groans]
-Finally. -[Cruz] Finally.
[Tigerlily] This is our last night here together,
and it's not something I'm trying to think about.
But honestly,
I know that there are some cracks
in our relationship.
And it's scary
thinking about facing those issues
thousands of miles apart.
[Adnan sighs]
[Tigerlily] Um...
as soon as I get back,
I need to, like, really...
rush and find a house
so that whenever you're coming,
we have, like, more space.
Like, I want to make sure everything is,
like, settled with our life and everything.
And I'm also kind of worried
about, like, when I get back to the US
and we're, like, back to just video calls...
[Tigerlily speaking]
Baby, come here.
Come here.
[sniffles]
[Tigerlily sniffles]
[sniffles]
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily] Okay.
This time in Jordan has been a whirlwind.
We were just thinking about the wedding,
[chuckling] and we just wanted to be married.
We didn't really think about our non-spousal visa,
which could take a long time.
So, of course, I'm worried
about being separated
when our relationship is so new and fragile.
[Tigerlily sniffling and crying]
-[Ingrid giggling] -[Brian speaking in Portuguese]
[Ingrid laughing] Oh, my God!
[laughing]
[in English] I do feel like me and Ingrid have
a lot of chemistry,
but I know that being with someone in my situation
will be a total different experience for her.
So it's nerve-wracking a little bit.
[speaking in Portuguese]
-Let's go. -[laughing]
[Brazilian music playing]
[Brian straining]
[speaking in Portuguese]
-[Brian speaking in Portuguese] -[Ingrid chuckles]
[Brian speaking]
-[Ingrid speaking] -[Brian speaking]
[in English] Meeting Ingrid's friends went really well,
especially because her friends broke the ice.
[Ingrid whoops]
Ingrid and I never really had that conversation about sex,
about expectations.
[Ingrid laughing]
[Brian] I do feel like me and Ingrid have a lot of chemistry,
but I know that being with someone in my situation
will be a totally different experience for her.
So it's nerve wracking a little bit,
[Brian sighs]
[Brian speaking in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking and laughing]
[Brian speaking in English] Oh, my God!
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Ingrid laughing]
[in English] Oh, my God. [laughing]
[Brian speaking Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking excitedly]
Yeah?
[both speaking Portuguese]
[speaking in Portuguese]
-[Brian speaks Portuguese] -[laughing]
[Brian shushes]
-[Ingrid laughing] -[Brian chuckles]
[light-hearted music playing]
[Ingrid laughing]
[in English] Being together in the bed,
kissing Ingrid's body,
rubbing lotion,
this is exactly what I've been waiting for.
It's amazing. It's exactly where I want it to be.
[Ingrid speaking]
[in Portuguese]
[tense music playing]
[elevator dings]
[in English] So...
we're up in the room, and...
the door was closed after you guys left.
And I went in to...
give her attention, kiss her, touch her.
And she's like, "Whoa".
After the cameras left,
Ingrid made it clear that she was ready to have sex,
but I didn't have a condom.
So I decided to offer oral sex.
But once I went to go kiss her stomach,
she basically-- hand in the face,
like, "Nope, stop".
It's my fault that I didn't have a condom
and I wasn't ready for that.
But for her to shut everything down
and end the way it did,
it hurt me. It hurt me.
[in Portuguese]
I thought I was going somewhere with her.
I was feeling good with meeting the kid,
and meeting the friends,
and checking all the boxes, and doing everything.
But, uh...
not happening.
I mean, I'm feeling so confused.
I thought it was...
a great compromise, a massage and oral sex.
There has to be something else going on.
[tense music playing]
[Brian] I'm always conscious about how women see me,
whether I'm attractive or not,
or whether they feel that something can happen
with a person like me.
I didn't think I'd have to worry about that with Ingrid,
but clearly I was wrong.
[chuckles softly] Um...
[music intensifies]
[Vanja] All right, here we go.
The adventure begins.
I'm just going to call Bozo real quick.
[line ringing]
So I keep calling him,
and he's not picking up.
I have a bad feeling
because of what happened in the past.
[orchestral music playing]
I made this custom-made
air freshener
with a picture [chuckling] of the two of us there.
[chuckling]
We love to joke around,
and I feel like this really represents
the two of us.
I picked coconut
because that's my favorite scent.
I hope he likes it.
And then when we drive around,
he can have this in his car
to remind him of me.
[upbeat music playing]
Today is the day.
I am leaving to meet [chuckling] Bozo
in Croatia.
I have been picturing the moment
when I get to meet him in person
for eight months,
and I just can't wait.
Ow, this is heavy.
I have never met a man like him before,
and he's just so kind, loving,
and full of compliments.
This is my guy.
This is the guy that I'm meant to be with.
[car honks]
[Vanja] Ah, time to go.
Yes, I'm wearing this to the airport.
[chuckles]
I wear heels all the time, including when I'm flying.
I am feeling nervous,
scared, anxious,
petrified, [chuckles]
uh, super happy.
Hi.
You know, I'm just going through
all different scenarios in my mind,
trying to think of what could happen,
what could happen.
The best case scenario on this trip is
we really click,
and then I come home with a ring on my finger.
This one. [laughing]
I still feel like it hasn't hit me completely. [laughing]
I think when I get to the airport
and I see his face,
and run up to him,
my God, it's going to be so exciting.
[upbeat music playing]
The adventure begins.
I think I'm going to be flying for 17 hours.
Germany first,
then Croatia, Split.
[squeals]
I'm just gonna call Bozo real quick
and then say hi before I board.
[line ringing]
So I keep calling him
and he's not picking up.
Now, I know it's a six-hour time difference,
but I just haven't heard from him
uh, this whole day today,
and it actually makes me feel a little scared.
[line ringing]
[tense music playing]
I have a bad feeling about...
the fact that I've been reaching out all day,
and he's not picking up
or answering my texts
because of what happened in the past.
[line ringing]
[Vanja] I would call, and he wouldn't pick up the phone.
And all of a sudden,
it came out that he was seeing someone else.
And especially on a day like this,
I mean, I'm literally boarding a plane to go see him.
I can't help it,
but having my mind going 200 miles an hour
trying to make sense of this,
and I'm trying so hard not to overthink.
[sighs]
Well, hopefully when I get there,
Bozo will be at the airport waiting for me.
[sniffles]
Hands shaking. [sniffles]
[exhales sharply]
[exhales]
Flight is almost ready to take off.
[alternative rock playing]
♪♪ And I'm often anxious ♪
Even though he's not picking up,
I'm still holding on to hope
that he will be there at the airport,
and this is going to be a start of a beautiful romance
that leads to the rest of our lives together.
33H.
But I'm definitely thinking all these things
in the back of my mind.
You know, what if I have invested
all this time and energy and effort
into something that's not going anywhere?
And I'm getting scared.
About to take off.
Ready to rock and roll.
[dramatic music playing]
[man speaking]
[Rayne] I know...
You can say I destroyed it,
but in the end, you'll see the truth.
[Chidi speaking off-screen] I still love her...
[Rayne] You will never see me again.
I'm done.
[Rayne speaking angrily] Why did you invite me if you hate me?
-The fact that I'm delusional after all this? -[Man] She told me she--
Okay. If you can see what I see that I--
-[squealing and shushing] -She's fine.
-[Rayne] Calm down. -You shush.
It's all right. It's all right.
-It's all right. -[Rayne speaking]
[dramatic music playing]
[Chidi] Rayne all of a sudden decided
she wanted to move out of my sister's place.
I'm trying to plead with her
and to talk her out of this idea,
[Man] Hold on, Rayne.
-Chidi, you better stick up for me here. -[Man] You know something--
You better stick up for me.
Did I not always tell you
that I always had a feeling about sisters?
And this moment right here
will prove the feeling
that I had the entire freaking time.
I was going to come back tomorrow,
but because she wants to play the game
and say that she don't like me
because of this and that, I'm done.
[Man] Ah, you know something, Rayne?
-Um-- -[Rayne] I'm cool.
[Man] I just want us to resolve this.
[Rayne] No, there's nothing to resolve. Do you understand?
Like, how would you like it
if you first entered the relationship
and his entire family was against you and involved?
Huh? Would you like that?
And they said, "Don't go with him. Don't go with her.
She's this. She's that.
Don't go. Like, do this. Do that."
And yeah, roll your eyes. When...
Welcome to your program, okay?
[Chidi speaking off-screen]
[baby crying]
[Rayne] Have a happy life. Enjoy your family.
[Man speaking]
[Rayne] I know... and you can say I destroyed it,
but in the end, you'll see the truth.
[Chidi] But at the same time,
I still love her,
[Rayne] I know, it sucks, huh?
Is this real?
[Rayne] I want to move on with my life.
-[baby crying] -[Rayne] I don't want to fight.
[Chidi] I want us to just cool off and talk.
[Rayne] I love you.
I always will, Chidi.
And I wish the best for you.
But I'm done.
[trolley rolling]
[Chidi] Babe?
Babe?
[Rayne] You will never see me again.
[sniffles]
I can't go any further.
[chuckles softly]
It made me...
sad, honestly, yeah.
I love her so much
and it pains me any time I see her behave
and react in such way.
In fact, I don't want to talk about it.
[Man] It's all right.
Why must I choose?
No, I love everyone.
[sniffles]
[Rayne] I want to throw up.
[crying]
It's painful,
[sniffles] neglectful,
just flat out hurtful...
in every way.
But I'm used to the pain,
[sniffles] so I won't hurt for long.
But I'm tired of going through the same thing with people.
[crying] I'm just sick of people
in the way they are in general.
But I still try to give hope and smile to the next.
[sniffles]
Even though he couldn't see me,
he could hear my heart. [sniffles]
And though no matter what I said or done,
[sniffles]
nothing still wasn't enough.
[sniffles and quivers]
[sniffles]
[narrator] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
I am most comfortable
when I'm making jokes.
But the difference between me and Eddie Murphy is
that I live at my mom's place.
[in Croatian]
[Bozo speaking off-screen]
[Loren speaking]
I'm going because I love my...
beautiful best friend, Faith.
-Yeah. -[chuckles]
[Loren speaking]
Would you want that?
[Tigerlily crying and speaking]
[sniffles]
There's been some issues between us,
and I'm worried.
Being so far apart,
they'll become bigger issues.
It's just really scary.
[crying] I love you so much.
I can't, baby. [sniffles]
But as soon as I went in,
it was stop signs and sirens.
[Ingrid speaking in Portuguese]
-[dramatic music playing] -[exhales]
[Niles] Before tonight ends,
I must tell Matilda the truth.
[Matilda speaking]
[crying]
[Veah] Is there anything that could ever change
how you feel about me?
No, never.
[Veah] Sunny--
[Veah crying] I don't want to lose you!