[Loren] Previously on Before the 90 Days...
[Joe] Oh [bleep]!
[Joe speaking]
It'll be worth it.
[Magda speaking]
But I have issues with trust.
Maybe Mr. Arc.
[Brian, in Portuguese]
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] I do believe when you love somebody,
through thick and thin, you do what you need to do for them.
And I'm not sure if Ingrid has that in her.
This is my mom.
-Hi, Loren. -[Loren] Hello.
My family all seem to be charmed by Loren,
but...
[in other language]
[in English]
Whoa.
You know what? I'm just... I'm [bleep] done with this.
If she tells me she's happy with you
and doesn't need me in the country,
then yeah, I can respect that.
Right now, you need to choose what you want.
I'm not sending Rory home.
So [bleep] it.
-[Veah] Sunny. -[Sunny speaking]
[Veah] Babe.
[Joe, in Polish]
-[Magda] Mm. -[in English] Ooh.
-Wow. -Baby, that was hot.
Yeah.
I feel like I'm
a fluent Polish speaker now.
Can I say "Dzien dobry" to this guy?
[in Polish]
[Magda chuckles]
Why are you looking at me like that?
[Joe] I just want to look at you.
[chuckles]
Maybe I think you're beautiful.
[Magda] Hmm.
[Joe] Being in Poland
and meeting Magda for the first time,
I feel we have a great connection,
like we're almost kind of better in person.
I feel super comfortable around her.
I feel like
she's my actual girlfriend, like I don't feel
that I have to tread lightly
because I'm just meeting someone for the first time.
So hopefully in the next three weeks
our connection will get stronger
and we'll end up with
a genuine love for each other.
You have nice soft hands, Magna.
Oh, I don't know. It's a little confusing.
Wow.
Magna, that was actually pretty good parallel parking.
Thank you, babe.
I think I've been calling her Magda.
Well, okay, I don't intentionally say Magna.
I guess it just rolls off the tongue
easier for me.
I'm not sure.
Magda.
I don't know, for some reason that word
throws me off a little bit.
-You want to go upstairs? -[Magda] Yeah.
[Joe] Magna, are there no elevators in Poland?
[Joe] Good thing I'm strong.
[groaning]
-[groans] -[Magda] You got it.
-[Joe groans] -[Magda] Babe!
[Joe] Yeah, there you go.
Oh.
[Joe grunts]
What a nice place. I like it.
[Magda] Yeah, I like this too.
[Joe] Very cute kitchen.
I'll look around here.
Polish refrigerator.
-Polish dishwasher. -[squeaking]
[Joe] A little squeaky.
It's got a little balcony.
-Very nice, yeah. -[Magda] Okay.
Um,
you know, I can sleep here, you can sleep there.
[Joe] What?
[Magda speaking]
[Joe] Okay.
[Magda speaking]
[Joe] Are you gonna nap?
-[Magda] Yeah, I'll lay down. -[Joe] Nice.
I'm a little disappointed.
We're not sleeping in the same room,
but I just gotta keep working my charm.
Maybe I can change that.
[Magda] We have to wait a little with this decision.
I need some more time
to make sure we work out together
and to trust him.
[Joe] Huh.
I didn't expect it to be this hot.
No air conditioning is a little, uh...
crazy.
[Magda humming softly]
[Joe] Being in separate rooms. I don't know.
I know she really does want this.
I mean, what am I gonna do?
There's nothing I can do.
Except go with the flow.
Magna?
I got you matching sneakers.
-[Magda speaking] -[Joe] So we can match.
Do you want to go grab a drink?
-Let's grab a drink. -[Magda] Okay.
-[Joe] So is this, like, the center? -[Magda] Yeah.
You sure you don't want to skip?
[Magda chuckles softly]
[Magda] So here you have a lot of restaurants.
[Joe] It's pretty cool. I like it. I like it a lot.
We are in the square of Krakow.
With Magna.
Pretty cool.
I definitely had low expectations of Poland
based off of my video calls with Magna
'cause it just seemed very gloomy.
Didn't help she's at a prison every day.
And, like, the weather didn't look great.
Should we order shots?
[waitress speaking]
-[Joe speaking] -[waitress] Mm-hmm.
But after seeing how vibrant the city is,
it's definitely a pleasant surprise.
How do you say cheers in Polish?
[in Polish]
[Magda speaking]
Oh!
[Joe, in English] That was nice.
[in English] Too strong for me.
That was very good. Pierogies, pierogies.
Thank you so much. You're amazing.
That's actually mad good. Really good.
Want to do an airplane?
-[vocalizing] -[Magda chuckles]
[Joe mimics swooshing]
It's pretty good pierogies.
Not as good as Italian food, but it's very good.
[both laugh]
[Joe] So,
am I really gonna have to sleep in another room?
[Magda speaking]
[Joe] But since we have no air conditioning,
I feel like if we
cuddle together for body warmth,
we'll be cooler.
[laughs]
You don't think so?
-[Magda] No. -Oh.
I want to just...
You know what I mean?
Yeah, I know what you mean.
I understand Magda wants to take her time
with trusting me and being intimate.
I'm okay with waiting and getting to know Magna.
I think she's worth it. It's just...
I think it's a little strange.
The fact that she's so adamant on
getting married and children and visas so quickly.
How can she be ready for all that
without knowing if we're physically compatible?
[crowing]
[indistinct chatter]
[Niles exclaims]
Oh, Matilda,
you are the most wonderful wife ever.
-[Matilda laughs] -[Niles] Without you,
I can never do anything ever again.
Thank you.
Take your time in everything, please.
-It will hurt you. -[Niles] Okay.
[blows]
[Matilda] So, babe...
[Niles] In Ghanaian culture,
it's tradition that the groom's parents
have an important role in the knocking ceremony.
I'm supposed to show up with my family
to her family's house and say,
"I love your daughter and I want to marry her."
But since my mom and dad
do not approve of my relationship with Matilda,
they will not agree to participate.
Mr. Arc is a family friend of Matilda's
that I have been in contact with.
I'm going to ask if he's willing to fill in
and represent my parents.
Otherwise, there's...
This ceremony can't happen.
-Okay. -[Matilda] Mm-hmm.
Did you ask, "How is he doing?"
Yes. "How are you? How was your night?"
[Matilda] Okay, cool. [chuckles]
[Niles] We can't overthink this, 'cause if we do,
we'll think ourselves out of it.
[Matilda] Mm-hmm.
-Is that him over there? -[Matilda] Yeah.
But please take your time, okay?
[Niles] Okay. I will.
Like... like...
-Hi, Mr. Arc. -Uh, hello.
[Niles] Oh.
-I'm sorry. I am so sorry. -[Mr. Arc] No worry. Welcome.
[Niles] I reached out my right hand
to shake Mr. Arc's right hand,
as is customary in this culture.
But he does not have a right hand.
[Mr. Arc in other language]
[in other language]
[in English]
So this isn't exactly the first impression
that I wanted to make.
This went a lot smoother in my head.
Um...
I presented my right hand to you. I am so sorry...
Okay.
[Mr. Arc speaking]
I feel very welcomed here.
-[Mr. Arc] Uh-huh. -The food, I'm still trying to get kind of used to.
-[Mr. Arc] Uh-huh. -[Niles] You know, being an American and all.
-[Mr. Arc] Mm-hmm. -I, um,
didn't know that I would be...
I would... I would feel so natural here.
Okay.
You know, I want to eventually marry Matilda,
and my family from home isn't actually here right now.
They didn't accompany me to Ghana.
[Mr. Arc] Uh-huh.
And I understand that you are a busy man.
[Mr. Arc] Uh-huh.
[Niles] But, um, the thing is, though,
I am gonna be asking you to step to and represent me
as my father in this marriage.
Ah...
[Niles] Okay, so
we're trying to have this...
The knocking ceremony
in a few days.
[Mr. Arc] Okay. All right.
Well, I...
-I will have to come back on the next trip. -No, no, no, no, no, no.
[Niles] Hmm.
[Mr. Arc speaking]
I understand what you're saying,
and it's just that I...
That is a...
[Mr. Arc speaking]
I'm the father.
[man 1 speaking]
Chicago was easier. It's an easier process.
[in Portuguese]
First he tells me I'm just a friend.
Then he tells me, "Oh, we'll see if the physical develops or not."
What's going on?
She's amazing. What are you doing?
[man 2] Let me ask you something.
[Vanja] Yeah, you know what? I'm just...
I'm [bleep] done with this.
This is just [bleep] up.
After the last couple of days
and how awkward they have been between us,
the fact that Bozo was introducing me to his friends,
I felt like it was a step in the right direction.
But seeing how
his friends were asking him to be honest with me
and they were sticking up for me,
um, Bozo couldn't handle it, I guess.
And he essentially told me that,
you know, it's over between us.
[exhales]
I should have just never come.
I should have listened to my friends and to my cousin
and I should have never come, because this...
I mean, I just feel like I was played a fool.
I was 100% played a fool.
He made me come here.
He wanted to pursue something more with me.
He wanted to make this into a long-term relationship.
And now he's, you know, first he tells me
I'm just a friend. Then he tells me,
you know, "Oh, we'll give it a few days
to see if the physical develops or not."
What's going on?
Man, she's amazing. What are you doing?
Let me ask you something. Would you like her to come back right now?
Guys, I don't feel it.
I don't feel it. I'm so sorry that I don't feel it.
Obviously, I cannot change my feelings, right?
Like, you have this beautiful girl here.
She came all the way from the States for you.
Maybe just giving that courtesy of three weeks,
-just kind of giving it a go, trying. -[Bozo] I know, I know.
But not even... You laid your terms. You laid the ground.
You're not giving her anything.
[Bozo] Yeah, geez.
I really feel bad and everything, but...
You don't have to apologize to us.
-You have to go... -[Bozo] Yes, I will go now.
-[Bozo speaking] -Just don't talk to me.
[Vanja] No, just don't talk to me, Bozo.
[cries]
[Vanja] Bozo, I really don't wanna hear anything.
No, I just... I...
-Apologize. Thank you. Apology accepted. -[Bozo] Okay, okay, okay.
Thank you. Thank you.
-[Vanja] No. We're good. We're good. -Otherwise, God bless you.
All the best. God bless you.
["I Don't Wanna Let You Go" playing]
♪♪ I guess it's too late to say I'm sorry ♪
♪♪ Never meant To let you down ♪
♪♪ I never meant To let you down... ♪
No. He doesn't deserve my attention anymore.
♪♪ I know I messed up bad And I can't go back ♪
♪♪ I blew a hole right through The railway track ♪
♪♪ I had a good thing going And that's a fact... ♪
[Bozo speaking]
I don't want to be fake towards somebody.
She deserves 100% devotion.
[Vanja sniffles]
[Bozo] I don't know.
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
Ooh.
[Brian laughs]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid exclaims]
[Brian, in English] I've had a great day with Ingrid in Recife so far.
But the conversation we had earlier
is still bothering me.
When Ingrid says that she didn't want
to be anybody's mother or babysitter,
uh,
it just kind of makes me feel concerned.
It's like, what if
I can't count on her when we are together?
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
[Brian speaking]
[Brian, in English] Even though I'm confused,
this is our time to figure out
if we're ready to share our life together.
I've met some of Ingrid's friends and family,
and I want her to meet somebody from my side.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] I lived in Recife for a little bit,
so I have a friend, Brian.
And whenever I have an issue or I have a problem,
Brian was always a guy that I can talk to.
And I'm really excited for him to meet Ingrid.
-Brian! -Hey, man.
-Hey. -Bro, give me a hug, man.
-It's been a while. -[Brian 2] It's been ages.
-Jesus. How are you? Nice. -[Brian 2] I'm good. Good.
-[Brian] Ingrid, Brian. Brian, Ingrid. -[both speaking Portuguese]
-[Brian 2 speaking] -[Ingrid speaking]
[Ingrid] Uh-huh.
[in English] Translate to her. Okay?
[in Portuguese]
[in English] Brian 2, 1.
-[in English] Ah, it was strange to... -Brian 2, 1.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid] Si.
[Brian 2, in English] Brian's spent a lot of time in Brazil,
so obviously he's had relationships in Brazil.
Women like Brian.
They like him. They like him.
Not just because of his condition,
but he speaks very fluent Portuguese.
He's a handsome looking guy.
He's got a great story to tell...
So where have you come from tonight?
[in English] Well, we're not staying together, right,
-for this reason. -Okay. That was my next question.
-Oh, sorry, yeah, not to cut you, not to jump to it. -No worries.
But that's... It's part of what,
you know, what we're going through and everything.
So Ingrid's staying at a hotel close to me.
I know it's strange, you know,
but I think for me it's important
to respect her privacy.
And we communicate, we meet each other.
Spend the day together?
-As much time as we can. -[in Portuguese]
-[in English] So, you know... -So you're enjoying
each other's company, yeah?
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English]
[Brian 2] So do you pair have any plans for the future?
[Brian] Yeah, we don't know how things are gonna go,
-but I got some things to take care of. -[Brian 2] Things to do, yeah,
with your ex then?
[Brian] Yeah. For the divorce.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] We're making the divorce, but she's not showing up.
-She's not showing up to the [bleep] hearing. -Her lawyers.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] I met my most recent ex-wife
after moving to Recife.
We dated for two years and got married.
But after a few months,
I realized that she was just using me for the green card.
So for the past two years, I've been going through a divorce.
Ingrid knows about my ex-wife and how frustrating it's been
going through this divorce.
This is why I definitely don't take marriage lightly anymore.
I've been married four times.
So before I get married for the fifth time,
I really need to make sure that she's the one.
Is it more difficult to get divorced in America
than it is to get separated here in Brazil?
Chicago was easier. It's an easier process.
[in Portuguese]
[Brian speaking]
[Ingrid speaking]
I'm here only for you. In the whole Philippines.
Out of the whole world.
And I do love you so much.
[Faith speaking]
-[Faith speaking] -[Loren] Mm-hmm.
-[Faith speaking] -[Loren] Yeah.
-[Faith speaking] -[Loren] "Isaw."
-Okay. -Isaw.
-Yeah.
[Faith in other language]
[vendor in other language]
[Faith, in English]
How spicy? Really spicy? Let's go.
Two of those? Three of those?
[Loren] Fun?
[Faith] Today is our last day in my hometown, Leyte.
And last night, I went out with my sisters
and I told them about Loren's STD and cheating.
-So... -[Loren] Yeah.
[Faith] My sister thinks there is more good than bad
about my relationship with Loren,
but I'm still working through my feelings
after he broke my trust.
Of course.
[Loren] Yeah.
[Faith in other language]
[in English]
So right now you must have tried the isaw.
[Loren] Yeah. Isaw.
[Faith] Isaw, the chicken intestine.
[Loren] Yeah, the good stuff.
[Faith] Mm-hmm.
See this one?
[Loren] Meat spaghetti.
Today I'm eating meat spaghetti on a stick,
which is chicken intestine.
It did look a little weird
but, you know, it tastes like Filipino goodness
and it's pretty good.
-You like it? -[Loren] Mm-hmm.
It's good. Very sweet.
-Really? -[Loren] I think so.
So how was hanging out with your sisters last night? It was good?
-[Loren] They talk about me? Huh? -Mm-hmm.
[Loren] That's good.
[Faith speaking]
-[Loren] You think so? -[Faith speaking]
I'm not gonna be cheating on you.
When I was in Vegas, I know
we have a miscommunication on that one.
-Big time. -Yeah.
Like, it would be different.
Because I would have you forever.
You're perfect.
[Loren] I know. You need to prove to me
you're not perfect before you are not perfect.
-[Faith speaking] -I know.
[Faith] He broke my heart.
That's why it's very hard to think
and to trust again.
But it is nice to see
a more sincere side of Loren.
And I feel that he really does
truly love me.
I'm here only for you.
In the whole Philippines.
Out of the whole world.
And I do love you so much.
You know I'm serious.
[Faith] Yes, I know.
[Loren] So,
am I still friend Loren
or can I be boyfriend Loren?
What do you think?
-For real? -For real.
[Loren laughs]
[Loren] Real boyfriend is good.
That's all I want.
Hearing Faith call me her boyfriend again is a huge relief.
It just feels really, really good.
I came here to build a future with Faith.
And so this is the green light. This is what I needed.
Finally,
things are moving in the right direction.
So, since you're somebody who I can be with forever,
I have been thinking about how we're gonna make it work.
Because in the Philippines, there's no same-sex marriage.
We can't just go get married right now.
It's very difficult.
But I'm here right now
trying to find a way to make it happen.
So if we really want to be together forever, right?
If you really love me enough to make a plan...
-[Faith] Mm-hmm. -...I have plans.
So I guess one of the ways we can do it
is we go to Thailand.
We get married.
'Cause same-sex marriage is legal there.
[Loren] In Thailand.
Yes. They don't care. They say it's good.
Love is all that matters.
We get the papers. We come back here.
I can file for citizenship of Philippines.
And then we're actually married. Forever.
But that's just one idea.
Another plan
would be that I marry somebody here and get citizenship.
But I know you don't want me to marry some other woman, right?
But what if I don't just marry any Filipina?
What if I just marry your mom?
[Loren] Yeah. Your mom.
She's single.
[Loren] Not like,
you know, real marriage, but like
marriage on paper, right?
And I can still give money to your family,
and then I'm really part of your family.
-[Faith speaking] -And we can all live together.
[Loren] Yeah.
Okay.
Marriage laws in the Philippines
is very complicated.
But still,
Loren's ideas are wild, out of this world.
It's crazy.
I can't believe he's saying this to me.
It makes me feel like he cares more
to stay in the Philippines instead of marry me.
And I'm worried.
Did you miss me in the other room?
[Joe] Yeah.
[Joe] First she said, we're gonna wait for a couple of months.
Now I have to wait for an engagement.
Does she want to just marry me
to be in the U.S.?
Or like, does she actually have feelings for me?
-[Veah] Sunny. -[Sunny] Leave me alone.
I want to figure this out.
There's no way we can figure it out.
You don't even care about my feelings.
-Because you're letting him ruin us. -No!
-[Veah] Yes! -It is you the one.
You wanted to ruin everything.
It's too much for me.
I wanted to bring you here to be with you.
Right now, you need to choose what you want.
I want all your attention on me. Not him.
I'm not sending Rory home.
So [bleep] it. Be yourself.
-[Veah] Babe. Come back. Babe. -[Sunny] No, I'm not doing that.
[Veah] Babe. Babe.
He's here. He's gonna help you. Don't worry.
-[Veah] Sunny. Sunny. -[Sunny] Leave me alone.
Leave me alone.
The reason I agreed to meet her ex-boyfriend,
to find out what is actually happening
in my relationship and why he's here.
-[Veah] Sunny. -[Sunny] Leave me alone.
But Rory, he's an angry person.
He was telling me,
"I'm just a random [bleep] guy over internet."
Who the [bleep] is that to telling me?
And I feel disappointed that
Veah is standing there and just looking at us.
And I told Veah that
she need to choose, like, what she want.
She need me or she need him.
-[Veah] Come back. -[Sunny] Just go.
[Sunny speaking]
Sunny, I don't want you to leave.
-Yeah? -I want to figure this out.
There's no way we can figure it out.
You don't even care about my feelings.
-No, I care about you. -And when I told you to choose, you didn't even...
-You're confused. -No, I don't want to choose.
-[Sunny] Why? -That's it. I just don't want to choose.
No, I don't like him, and I don't love him.
-So? -[Veah] He's just my friend.
-Because you're letting him ruin us. -No!
-[Veah] Yes! -It is you the one.
-You... No. -[Veah] I'm not trying to ruin us.
You wanted to ruin everything
-because you are... -No, I don't.
-You are. You are. -I just wanted you guys to meet
-so we can get past everything. -No. I was happening...
-[Veah] I never wanted the drama. -No. No.
I don't want to deal with this [bleep] anymore.
Please, I beg you, Veah.
Please, I can't take this anymore.
It's too much for me.
[Veah] I don't want this to keep coming between us.
[sniffles]
-I want to be with you. -[Sunny] Veah...
I love you.
Make sure what you're choosing.
I don't want to get hurt myself
again and again in the same thing.
[Veah sniffles]
[Veah] I don't want to lose you.
-[Sunny] Me too. I don't want to lose you. -I do love you.
And I told you I loved you.
A lot. And you know I love you.
[Sunny] And I love you too, but you need to send him home.
That's what I need from you.
If it's like that, I'm okay.
-That's what you have to do. -[Veah] Okay! And I choose you!
I choose you!
Okay.
I just want him to understand that I want him.
This is about him and not Rory.
Let's go.
I want to keep the peace in our relationship.
I don't want to fight with him.
But I don't think it's fair to have an ultimatum.
This just shows me that Sunny doesn't really have
faith in me or our relationship.
That does worry me a lot.
[Joe grunts]
[Joe] Good morning.
[Magda chuckles softly]
You miss me?
-A lot. -Yeah?
It was very lonely in there.
-Yeah. I had nightmares. I was scared. -[gasps]
[Joe] Our first morning together was, kind of, nice.
But I didn't love waking up separately.
It felt like... a little bit like we were roommates last night.
-[Magda] -[Joe]
[Magda] Good night.
[Joe] What a night!
[Joe] Obviously, I'd rather, you know, stayed with her.
But I feel like both of us are still working on building trust
that, you know, it's gonna take some time for us to work things out
and for her to feel comfortable.
Did you miss me in the other room?
I miss you a lot.
But, you know, we will wait with that,
and...
[Joe] Yeah?
-After a proposal? -Yeah.
The ring is, "I choose you for the rest of my life.
I wanna be with you."
And...
I don't know about that.
You don't know about that?
What if we're not sexually compatible?
It's not the most important thing...
It's pretty important.
[Joe] First, she said, "We're gonna wait for a couple of months."
Now I have to wait for an engagement for us to have sex?
I don't wanna propose to someone
that I've never been intimate with.
Like that, to me, that doesn't make any sense.
It definitely put, like, some doubt in my mind like,
"Does she wanna just marry me to be in the US?
Is she doing it for that,
or does she, actually, have feelings and wanna be intimate?"
Seems like a lot of work.
You just have sex first and then decide.
Um, no.
If you will be older, like 60,
you will not be able to have sex with me.
So you have to love me.
You think my penis will stop working at 60?
-[Magda] Maybe at 50. You never know. -50?
-Yeah. -[Joe] I don't know.
Don't even talk like that.
-I'm not gonna avoid it. -[laughs]
But what if you have to be with a person
that she will be your best friend?
No, I get it.
That's why we're doing this, to, like, get to know each other.
-Okay. -But I think it's good to know each other both ways.
I know I know a lot of things about you already.
But I just want to wait until propose,
and I need to trust him.
He broke my trust when he slept with another girl.
That's why I want do everything slow.
It's not the right moment to speak about it right now.
But...
I just want see his eyes he's telling the truth.
But I'm scared.
I hope so this will not destroy our future.
-We will talk about this later, okay? -[Joe] Okay.
[Niles] Matilda's told me that there was a whole lot of money
involved with this,
and I had to buy food for everyone in their family,
-which is 20 or 30 people. -[smacks lips]
[Mr. Arc]
[clicks tongue]
I'm beginning to think that there's a distinct possibility
that Matilda is trying to take advantage of me.
[suspenseful music playing]
[clucking]
[Mr. Arc]
[Matilda]
I'm... Right now, I'm okay.
I'm just... I'm just taking it all in.
It takes me a little time to process everything.
But I'm not ready to get married just yet.
I'm... I'm trying to get to know her.
[Niles] Three weeks.
[Mr. Arc]
You know, I gave Matilda the engagement ring
and agreed to participate in the knocking ceremony
just to prove to her how serious I was about this marriage.
But I didn't know that just doing the knocking
is not acceptable in Ghanaian culture.
If that's the case,
I don't know why Matilda's family approved us postponing the wedding.
I do have, um, some things to ask you in... in private.
Let's go.
[Niles] I'm pretty confused at the moment,
and I need a lot of clarity from Mr. Arc right now.
Like I said, I should have asked more questions...
-Uh-huh. -...and I should have talked to you about this
a little bit more.
[Mr. Arc]
Yes, sir. And from now on, I will make sure to talk to you.
I will make sure to consult you first
so that everything is in order.
[Mr. Arc]
Okay. So the thing is, though,
I went to the family like my first day in Kumasi,
and they--
[in other language]
-Yeah... -[in English]
[sighs] Okay. So...
I told them that I could do the knocking ceremony,
but I could not finish the entire ceremony
until I came back from America in a few months time.
-I have-- -[clicks tongue]
[Mr. Arc]
[Niles] Matilda told me that there was a whole lot of money
involved with this.
There was a big ceremony.
I had to buy food for everyone in their family,
-which is 20 or 30 people. -[smacks lips]
[Niles] I haven't even met all of them yet.
But I also had to make sure there was enough food for her friends
-and for her cousins. -Uh-huh.
-And I had to get gifts for all of her siblings. -[clicks tongue]
[Mr. Arc]
Hey.
[Niles] Matilda and I have been discussing marriage all of this time
and never once did I hear her say
that I needed to have someone like Mr. Arc guide me through this process.
On top of that,
Matilda wants me to pay for this big, expensive party for the knocking
and then have this large wedding in the future.
And from what I have learned from Mr. Arc,
it's not traditional to do either of those things.
I wanted to trust Matilda, and I made a mistake.
[Mr. Arc] Mmm-hmm.
[in other language]
[Niles] My parents have always said,
"There's a distinct possibility
that Matilda is trying to take advantage of me."
And now Mr. Arc, who is standing in as my parent,
is basically saying the same thing.
I'm beginning to think that there could be some truth
to what they were worried about.
-[Niles] Matilda, let me start from the beginning. -Mmm-hmm.
Was I or was I not supposed to come here first
before I went and visited your family?
-Was... I was supposed to do that? -Mmm-hmm.
[Niles] This sounds like a really major thing that I have done wrong here.
If you knew all of this before now...
[Mr. Arc in English]
-You're saying that you're sorry. -Mmm-hmm.
Okay.
Matilda, do you know how this makes me look?
Do you know how this makes you look?
[tense music playing]
[Matilda]
And I needed him to explain to my family why that happened.
Not only that, I was told that I needed to have food for the party.
Yes.
You did. You told me--
I have to have structure. I have to have rigidity in the plan.
I need to know what the heck I'm doing.
Simply put, when things like this happen,
we have drama, we have issues.
I know, I understand, but that's... that's how I'm feeling right now.
-No, no, no, no. -I feel like--
No, no, no, no.
[Matilda] Niles is lying.
[in other language]
[in English]
[Mr. Arc] No, no, no.
-I need to discuss some things with Matilda... -Uh-huh.
[Niles] ...and I need to ask her a few things as well.
[music concludes]
Did you tell your mom the plans or no?
[chuckles]
It's complicated.
I know Faith, kind of, laughed off the idea of marrying her mom.
But I don't think we should dismiss it.
And maybe her mom would be receptive to the idea.
[mystical music playing]
[indistinct conversation]
[in other language]
[faint laughter]
[Faith in other language]
[singing in English] ♪♪ Hey! Jingle bells Jingle bells♪
♪♪ Jingle all the way ♪
[Faith in other language]
[continues indistinctly]
[woman laughs]
Loren, go.
-Well, it's the instrumental now. -[laughs]
-You just told me-- -[Faith] Let's dance.
Dancing to "Jingle Bells."
[Faith]
♪♪ Dashing through the snow In a one-horse open sleigh ♪
♪♪ O'er the fields we go ♪
♪♪ Laughing all the way♪
This is our last night here, together with my family.
It's very sad,
but I'm so very happy also that they meet Loren.
This trip helped Lauren and I heal,
and I'm feeling better about us as a couple.
But I'm still not sure about marriage.
[toy trumpet sounding]
[all laughing]
[all cheering]
-[Bea] Very good singers. -[Loren] Merry Christmas.
[Bea]
[in English]
-Yeah. -[in other language]
-[Faith] The shrimp is, um, you must taste this one. -[Loren] No.
[Faith] My mom good in this.
It's like slightly too thick.
[Bea]
Yeah.
It's good. The mango is good,
but then the shrimp paste
you're just like, "Ugh." It's just like pure salt in your mouth.
It's not my thing.
We use that shrimp paste for all kinds of other things, but a dip?
No. No, it's not. Salt dip, I...
Uh, my cooking is gonna be very different than your cooking.
That's right.
-[Loren] But that's why it's good together, right? -Yeah.
-Everybody learning something. -Yeah.
[Faith's mom]
[Faith]
Yeah. So earlier me and Faith talking about maybe the plan
-if we were together forever. -[Bea] Mmm-hmm.
[Loren] And so one of the plans, right, is I move here
maybe temporary, maybe forever,
maybe later.
At some point, here.
Everyone always tells me it's so hard to find a job here.
-Hmmm. -But in America, I do all jobs right.
-Mmm-hmm. -And I've done security,
um, I taught martial arts,
-I can cook, I can clean. -Wow.
I know how to fish, I've worked on a farm,
-and I'm willing to learn more. -Yeah.
[in other language]
-But it's up to Faith what we do. -[Bea] Yeah.
[all laughing]
[Faith in other language]
[Bea in other language]
[in English]
"I miss you."
I see how much Faith's mom loves her,
and we've had a lot of fun together,
and they've been really warm and welcoming to me.
I know Faith, kind of, laughed off the idea of marrying her mom,
but I don't think we should dismiss it,
and maybe your mom would be receptive to the idea.
[in other language]
[in English] My mom asking me if... when we go home next time.
So...
[in other language]
[Loren] Hold on.
Did you tell your mom the plans or no?
[chuckles]
It's complicated, right?
[in English]
-We should ask them. -You can ask them.
So I have lots of plans.
The easiest plan is 'cause she doesn't need a visa to go to Thailand,
neither do I. We both have a passport.
In Thailand, we can legally get married
and come back to the Philippines.
[in other language]
[Loren] Okay, and if that doesn't work out,
the next plan...
I would marry Faith's mom.
[Faith]
[all laughing]
[woman]
[all laughing]
[in other language]
[Faith in English]
-My mom thought this was craziest plan. -[chuckles]
And then, it's a good thing you're considering the plans at all.
[tense music playing]
I felt pressured and that Loren is pushing me
to tell my family about our plans.
And it's bad for him to push the idea
for him to marry my mom.
They just met him.
We're not engaged yet, and it's a lot.
I don't want them to think we're both crazy
or out of our minds.
Bye, bye, Ma.
[Faith's mom]
[in other language]
[all laughing]
-[sniffles] -[Faith]
[Loren] It's okay.
So I pitched the idea to Faith's family,
and they pretty much laughed to my face about it.
At least I have other plans to work on,
but Faith seems hesitant about discussing marriage plans.
[in other language]
Of course, I wanna be with Faith forever.
But my dream is also to live in the Philippines.
And if we don't come up with a plan,
then I don't know if that's possible.
-See you soon. -Okay. Okay.
Bye, bye.
It's okay.
Yeah. Everybody.
You said, "I love you." And then you said, "Let's come over to Croatia."
And then, "Let's meet in person."
You said, "Hello, you. Thank you, my love. I love you."
And then you said, "You didn't tell me today I love you."
[enchanting music playing]
Last night was absolutely awful,
and after going back to my empty apartment by myself,
I felt stupid.
I felt like everything was a lie.
I was an emotional basket case.
I was just bawling my eyes out.
It feels like all this anticipation
for this beautiful relationship
that I had pictured in my mind,
he just rips all that from under my feet and throws it in the garbage.
I feel led on.
Um, so typical Bozo.
He sent me a voice text
and this was, uh... this is so confusing to me.
[Bozo over phone]
Honestly, what I would love to tell him
is to eff off.
But I'm hoping to get some more answers and just get closure.
So I'm just gonna go and see what happens.
[suspenseful music playing]
[seagull squawks]
[Bozo] I feel terrible about what happened last night.
I feel so bad that she felt something that I didn't feel
that I let her down.
I don't wanna leave things in such a bad... negative way.
And I'm hoping whatever happens,
that she's open for that,
that we can be friends.
Hi, Vanja.
-[Vanja] Are you not cold? -Nope.
Uh... What did you do today?
Uh, just a lot of stuff,
reflection and things like that.
Oh, okay.
So I'm still very confused.
-[Bozo] Uh, you tell me. -I'm just... I'm just still very confused
because, you know, like, what was the purpose of me coming here
if this wasn't to pursue our relationship?
I wanted to see you, to have a great time,
you to enjoy three weeks here,
have fun,
and have beautiful moments, and have memorable things to do
and so on.
I really didn't think about future, deeper stuff.
And I'm sorry, uh, that you came here, and I disappointed you.
[Vanja] I came here for a relationship.
I mean, you said, "I love you."
And then, you said, "Let's come over to Croatia."
And then, "Let's meet in person."
[Vanja]
[Bozo] You can check, please.
Okay.
Yeah. Yeah, here.
This is what you said.
You said, "Hello, you. Thank you, my love. I love you."
And I said, "Oh, we agree there too." And "I love you, too."
And then you said, "You didn't tell me today I love you."
[laughing] Yeah. Yeah.
And he's laughing because this is hilarious,
because I take it as a face value.
To me, this is a serious thing.
It feels like you've always felt this way about me
then there was never more for you than what I thought there was.
Did you ever wanna date me?
-[stuttering] Did I ever wanna date you? -[Vanja] Yes.
-But that's the reason you came to Croatia. -Yes.
[Bozo] Like, to see where are we... where is this going?
Yes.
I was always connected to you...
in, uh... when we were texting.
I don't know why there is no chemistry
when we saw each other in life.
But you expected there to be chemistry
when we saw each other in person?
[Bozo] So, I was seeking for it. Will that happen?
And when I realized, like, I don't feel chemistry
and you feel all the stuff, I was crushed.
So when was the chemistry not there?
-When wasn't it-- -Is it when I arrived?
Is it in the cooking class?
Mine, too!
So I scared you?
Because, what if I don't get at that level that you did?
Immediately kissing,
immediately affection and stuff?
I just... All I hear is just an excuse
-because you didn't even give us a chance. -Yeah.
You shut it down immediately on day one.
[Bozo] My deepest apologies for hurting you.
I'm really sorry. I apologize so many times.
And I'm really embarrassed,
really, uh, sad that... that I disappointed you.
But you have me till the rest of your life
as a friend. Uh, yeah.
I don't wanna be friends.
I... I'm... I'm... I'm super hurt.
So... this is it.
Thank you for nothing, because this was a horrible experience.
And, you know, I'm just...
I know that you don't wanna see me as friends,
at least now.
In the future, I'm there for you.
Yeah. No, I'm not interested in that.
No.
-Thank you so much. -I always will be there for you. Yeah.
-Thank you. -[Vanja] Thank you. Okay.
-Have a good one. Bye bye. -[Bozo] Hug... Yeah.
Okay.
-Okay. Bye. -[Bozo] Enjoy
Looking at who Bozo is now,
in real life, person in front of me, uh,
it makes me question every interaction we had online.
Maybe he entered all of this with good intentions,
but he couldn't handle it.
In typical Bozo fashion,
he ran in the other direction
and handled it all as a joke.
I might as well just pack my bags and go home.
It's just sad to think about the fact
that I'm right back where I started eight months ago,
alone in Croatia.
Here we are again, alone.
[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid speaking]
[Brian speaking]
[in English] My first was with my daughter.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] The third one, I stayed with...
after the accident,
and we separated.
[in Portuguese]
[Ingrid in Portuguese]
[in English] She's asking me if I told them all my age.
-Of course. -[in Portuguese]
[in Portuguese]
[in English] She thought I was 45.
But she tells me...
I might as well say... [continues in Portuguese]
[in English] She's not good with math.
I have a 31-year-old daughter.
How the [bleep] am I gonna be 45?
[chuckles]
[in Portuguese]
[in English] I was telling her sometimes--
[in English] We have some things to think about and talk about.
Yeah.
-You have a lot of things to talk about. -Yeah.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] It's only judging. It's only judging.
[Brian in English] Ingrid and I never had in-depth conversations
about my past relationships.
And she never really asked how many times I've been married,
so I really haven't lied about it.
But I don't understand why it matters
'cause I really don't care who she's been with.
So I don't think she should either.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] The fact that Ingrid keeps judging me on my past
shows that she's just not gonna stop judging me.
I mean, she's judged me on my age.
She's judged me on selling drugs in my past,
and now my previous marriages.
I mean, we're going in a circle, and I wish she would judge me
for my current actions and not my past.
I was hoping to leave here with our relationship stronger than ever,
but at this point, it just seems like we're growing further apart.
-[Ingrid in Portuguese] -[Brian] Okay.
[Joe] This is so cute.
I don't remember the day. I really don't.
You had sex just one time in these five months
and you don't remember when.
Are you excited?
-[bleep] I'm so excited today... -[chuckles]
...to eat pretzels.
-[both] Hi. -How are you?
Hello.
-[both] Yes. -[Marta] Yes? Okay.
So these are your table.
-Nice. -Obwarzanki.
-[all] Hi. -[Joe] Hi. Nice to meet you.
Today, Magda has a very cute, quaint day planned
of, uh, pretzel making.
Then we're gonna do a little vodka tasting.
I feel like it's a good way to start...
a Polish voyage together.
-Have you ever made obwarzanki before? -[Magda] No, never.
-It's our first time. -[Marta] No? Okay, so that will be your first time.
Okay. And so...
this tradition is more than 600 years old in Krakow.
And bagels are like, uh, younger cousins of obwarzanek.
Do you ever put, like, bacon, egg and cheese on these?
-You can try. Yes. [chuckles] -Okay. Okay.
Just wondering.
-Are you ready for this? -[Joe] Yeah.
First of all, we have to divide our dough...
-Joey! -Sorry.
[Marta] We have to...
[in Polish]
-Salami? I know that. -[Marta speaking in Polish]
[in English] Roll it.
[Joe] It's a nice-sized penis. It's...
Babe...
Grow up, Magda.
-Me? -Yeah. Not everything is about penis.
-In your life, yeah. -[Joe chuckles]
[Magda speaking]
Penis... [chuckles]
It's just the way Magda pronounces "penis."
It's very cute.
[Magda] In Polish language,
we said "pennies" not "penis".
Yeah, unfortunately,
it got seared in my brain and I keep repeating it.
[chuckles softly]
Sorry. Sorry, sorry, sorry.
And then we have to twist them.
Like this.
-[Magda gasps] -[Joe and Magda] Wow!
-The table is-- -[Joe] Oh, [bleep]
-Five-second rule. -[Marta chuckles]
[Joe] It's getting cooked, right?
[both chuckle]
[Marta] Aw!
[Joe speaking]
Aw!
[Magda] We make heart from these pretzels.
It's really nice.
He is romantic and, um...
yeah, I love that in him.
[Marta] Milk...
I'm gonna try it.
Good. It's like a pretzel.
[Magda] But I still have to speak with him seriously
about, you know, some things
before I can trust him again.
-Bye. -Bye. Nice meeting you guys.
See you. Bye.
[Joe] This is so cute.
[Magda] It is Jewish.
[Joe] Is this the Jewish Quarter?
-[Magda] Yeah. -[Joe] This is pretty cool.
-It's very old-school. -[Magda] Yeah.
Here is this place.
Are we gonna get vodka?
[Magda] Yep.
-[in Polish] -Hello.
[in Polish]
[in English] What can I get you?
-Um... -What kind of vodka do you have?
[bartender speaking]
I would say I'm a vodka connoisseur, of sorts.
Me and vodka do go way back.
She's a strong woman.
This is exciting. Let's try on this one, and we'll share it.
[Magda] It's citrus.
I think so.
It's pretty good. It's smooth.
I think it's cool that we're trying Polish vodka in Poland.
It's authentico.
That is vodka.
You liked that?
Very good. Yeah.
Very good.
[exhales]
This is cool. I'm having a very good time.
[Magda speaking]
[Joe] What's wrong?
So...
It's...
all the time one thing in my head...
what you did with the girl,
it really broke me.
[Joe] In my defense, I had no idea
that we were together.
[Magda speaking]
and I put a ring to my left hand,
so everybody see I'm engaged.
So nobody comes to me.
Baby, you didn't tell me you did that.
Yeah, but I did.
It is crazy to think about her being
that committed without meeting a person
or confirming with the person that you're gonna,
you know, wear a ring on her, uh, wedding finger.
That definitely adds a little bit...
to my wariness that Magda's so focused on engagement.
I never wanted to hurt you. I'm sorry.
Like, in the beginning, I didn't know that.
And I did not know we were in a relationship 'cause I'd just met you.
Why you didn't tell me?
I did tell you. I didn't lie about it.
Yeah, because I asked about that.
If I will not ask you about that, I will never find out.
-I would have told you. -When?
I don't know. If it was important.
Okay. Okay. So, what month this happened?
[Joe] We met beginning of March,
and then April is when this happened.
That was my birthday.
Beginning of April... Like... the first week of April is not your birthday.
So, you did that 1st of April?
I don't remember the day. I really don't.
You had sex just one time in these five months,
and you don't remember when.
You tried to buy me flowers on my birthday,
and before that, you [bleep] another girl.
-That it was just one girl or more than...? -No.
I'm just scared you will do that again...
[Joe speaking]
I don't know what to say.
There's, like... for me, it's really strange
to don't remember when you slept with someone.
I try to believe and trust,
but it's just hard after all of it.
[mouthing]
Matilda, according to, uh, Mr. Arc,
knocking was supposed to be a smaller affair.
Why, then, did you tell me I needed to have a ceremony for 90 people?
You said I need to give Charlotte 200 cedis, $200...
[Matilda] I don't... I don't really get it.
You are crying about $200.
Stop talking...
right this instant.
[indistinct shouting]
[Niles sighs]
I learned a lot today.
[Matilda speaking]
First of all, we were asking Mr. and Mrs. Arc
to be my parents, correct?
Yes. Correct.
Okay, Matilda--
-I'm gonna be very eloquent with you... -Yes.
And I'm gonna be nice.
[Niles] Okay.
It's like, not... not yet. Not, at least,
I don't know of it until I ask my questions.
I... my...
Today, Mr. Arc got upset
that we are delaying the marriage ceremony.
And Niles told Mr. Arc that I haven't been honest to him,
and I mislead him on purpose.
And I am very, very angry.
I did not know that I was supposed to make haste
-to Mr. Arc as part of the today's custom. -Then where did--
-And then why-- -And I asked you about the tradition.
You did not tell me that we need to make haste to Mr. Arc
because I'm supposed to talk to him first...
It's like... yes, you did, but you know...
you know what you didn't tell me?
You didn't tell me how important it was.
That's a lie.
Hold up, because maybe I...
maybe there were times where I didn't hear those parts,
and I should have asked.
Me and you, we discussed it.
Of course, I don't, because we're from different cultures.
-You know that I have never been in your culture before. -[Matilda] Yes.
-You know I have a disability, correct? -Yes.
Okay, so if I ask you about customs,
and I ask you about the order
in which things are supposed to be done,
why, then, did you allow me to go to knock on your...
to tell your family this before I went to see Mr. Arc?
You did not say that that was supposed to be
-the thing I'm supposed to do. -But didn't I--
You also to... He also told me that
the knocking was supposed to be a smaller affair.
Why, then, did you tell me I needed to have a ceremony for 90 people?
Yes, you do.
-And according-- -Even my uncle, they have friends.
They have to attend the knocking.
According to, uh, Mr. Arc, no, they don't.
There was no ceremony supposed to be involved in this.
No, I did not say that!
-Yes, you told me that! -[Matilda] When?
You said I need to give Charlotte 200 cedis, $200...
That's why I said that you have to give Charlotte $200 to cook food.
I don't... I don't really get it.
You are crying about $200.
I'm not crying about $200.
Hold up, hold up.
To make my friends come, so that you can be happy.
-Hold up, hold up. -[Matilda] I wanted to make you happy.
[Niles] What makes you think a big gathering like that would make me happy?
I told you that I'm autistic.
I'm not good in social situations.
I am an introvert.
I may not have spelled... said,
"I do not want a large gathering..."
They think that.
Stop talking...
right this instant.
I need a few moments.
[Vanja] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
Excuse me, do you mind if I sit here?
-Oh, yeah, sure. -[man] Yeah?
-You're beautiful, and so I thought I'd come by... -[chuckles softly]
-[Vanja] You're very kind. -Yeah.
I still have a couple of weeks left here,
and maybe I am open to meeting someone new.
To be honest, I'm in a relationship.
But we just opened it up.
[Adnan speaking]
[Tigerlily speaking]
With these new rules, like, I'm losing a little bit of myself.
[Adnan speaking]
I thought you meant like, you would be so romantic.
I didn't know you meant this.
Do you know that people come to get married
in the salt mine in the chapel?
-Yes. -They get married here?
-[woman] Are you a couple? -[Joe] Yeah.
Magda definitely seems a little salty.
Do you want to talk about last night?
You [bleep] her in your bed in your house.
When? How?
Matilda, these past two weeks have been...
they've been an eye-opener for me.
I'm starting to think about all the mistakes that I've made,
all the mistakes that... that she has made,
and to be honest with you,
I had a change of heart.
You know, Matilda,
the truth is...
[Faith] This is my boyfriend.
-[friends cheering] -[chuckles]
[man] Whoo!
[Faith speaking]
I don't think so.
[Faith speaking]
I don't even understand what I did.
I'm afraid that it could be over.