[woman] Previously on Before 90 Days...
I'm thinking about booking a flight
and just going back home.
[Vanja] I am open to meeting someone new.
So I might as well stay,
and take a little peek at what's on the apps.
You're evil.
No, I care about my feelings!
I don't wanna deal with this [bleep] anymore.
Please, I beg you, Veah!
I don't want to lose you.
-Me, too. I don't want to lose you too. -[Veah] I do love you.
And I choose you. I choose you!
I don't think it's fair to have an ultimatum,
but I don't wanna fight with him.
Okay.
[Ingrid and Brian conversing in Portuguese]
There's something I need to tell you.
I lost my job.
[Matilda speaking]
When I changed my mind about getting married,
I kind of forgot all about all the gifts
and cash for the family,
which is all part of the bride price.
I don't know where we go from here.
[Matilda speaking]
Oh, God.
So, Joey, you need to get married, right,
-for her to live... -To live in the US, yes.
You are ready for that?
I don't know. I just...
[woman speaking]
That was a really big mistake in my life.
Magda said she moved to another country for an ex.
She's willing to do the same thing with me
without really getting to know me, so...
No.
I just act the way I'm supposed to act with the drag queen.
How does she know? She's never been to one before either.
Okay.
[Loren] I feel blindsided by this.
Faith already has trust issues with me.
I'm afraid me and Faith could be over.
♪♪ I've been underestimated ♪
♪♪ You know, it just makes you seem intimidated ♪
♪♪ Think twice if you think you've got to start a brawl ♪
♪♪ Seems you don't know enough to know you gotta run ♪
Finally, I get to put these on, put them to use.
I have a date today and we're going kayaking
into the Adriatic Sea.
When things ended with Bozo,
I had no idea what I was going to do.
I was contemplating moving my ticket and just going home.
But then I got on the dating apps,
just like my cousin told me to do
and I matched with this really cute guy called Jura.
I am super affectionate.
I like being touchy-feely.
I like hugging, holding hands.
Yeah. [chuckles]
So... for me,
it takes time.
Okay, that's fair.
So this is where I'm at.
-[Jura] Okay. -Yeah.
Uh, I'll text you.
-Okay. Thank you. -Bye.
Unfortunately, it just... it wasn't a love connection.
I was starting to feel a little hopeless.
Like, maybe I won't find my soulmate here.
But then I matched with Josko,
and he is hot.
He is built like a Greek god,
huge arms and washboard abs,
I could just wash my laundry on. Yum.
Our conversation
is just so light-hearted,
um, easy-going, super fun banter back and forth.
He's flirty but not gross.
He's very respectful,
and there's just something about him
that makes me feel like we click.
I don't have a lot of time left
at this point in my trip, so...
[chuckles] I do not wanna miss my chance to meet him.
I am nervous because, obviously,
there's a lot on the line here, you know.
I've just had a series of, um,
unfortunate events happening so far.
I'm going in this with an open mind,
and that makes me feel a little bit...
a little bit more relaxed and relieved,
and less anxious.
But we'll see. We'll see.
It might be too much to handle. [chuckles]
-There he is! -Hey.
-Hi! -Hi. How are you?
-Good. How are you? -[Josko] I'm good.
-So good to see you. -So good to see you, too.
My God, you're tall.
-Oh, my God. -I love it.
-So are you. -[Vanja] You look amazing.
Thank you. You too.
-Are you gonna be hot in that outfit kayaking? -[Josko] Uh, I hope not.
[chuckling] Me, too.
-Are you ready? -[Vanja] Yes.
-Let's do it. -[Josko] All right.
[Vanja] Thank you. I appreciate it.
All right.
I love your car.
-Thank you. -[Vanja] It's so nice.
-I cleaned it just for you. [chuckles softly] -Well, I appreciate that.
Usually, mine is filled with stuff in the back.
Gym bags, dance bags,
-all kinds of stuff. -So was mine this morning.
-But, yeah. -Yeah. [chuckles]
Now that I see him in real life,
he looks way better than in the pictures.
Oh, my God, I'm so glad I finally get to meet you.
He smells delicious.
I am just feeling every single one of the muscle strands...
Whoa! Sparks are flying. [chuckling]
And I'm hoping that he's feeling the chemistry, too.
Oh, no...
[chuckling]
Yay!
All right. This is it.
Perfect.
-[man] Hi, guys. -[both] Hi.
-Nice to meet you. Andrej. -Nice to meet you. I'm Vanja. Hi.
-Josko. -Nice to meet you.
Are you ready for the kayaks?
Uh, ready as we'll ever be, I guess.
-[Josko] Uh, let's say so. -[both chuckle]
[Vanja] Let's do it.
Nice.
[chuckles softly]
I'm definitely liking what I'm seeing.
He's built so well, and he has a perfect bubble butt.
This is why I love European men, okay?
They're not afraid to wear a Speedo.
You cannot not look. [chuckles]
So both of you are gonna be in the single kayaks.
Everyone for themselves.
Go straight at the waves.
Try not to let the waves hit you on the side.
[instructor] Yeah, nose on.
-You're ready? -[Vanja] Yes.
Okay. There you go.
Oh, you're good. Okay.
Have a nice time.
Enjoy.
[Vanja speaking]
[chuckles]
-Argh. Okay. -[Vanja] Okay.
[whooping]
[chuckling, whooping]
Whoo!
[Josko] I feel a really good connection with Vanja.
Whoo!
[instructor] You liked that?
[Vanja] It was so cool.
[Vanja speaking]
[both laughing]
[Vanja speaking]
[Josko speaking]
-[Vanja speaking] -[Josko speaking]
[laughing]
[Vanja laughing]
Bow chicka wow wow.
[laughs]
[laughing]
[Vanja] I'm not peeking.
[laughs]
[Vanja speaking]
-You're welcome. All good? -Yeah.
I'm looking at him and just thinking like, "Bozo who?"
[chuckling]
-You are? Are you cold? -Yeah.
All right. So where are we going?
-We can stay here. -Okay.
[chuckles softly]
God, your muscles are so amazing.
Yeah?
Oh, you're shivering.
[chuckles softly]
-[both laughing] -Oh, my God.
-TMI. -And, uh...
[Vanja] This guy is just magic.
He's... he's amazing.
-[chuckles] -Yeah. I'm very happy that we did this.
-The night's not over. -No.
The sun's down, but we're still up.
[chuckles]
-Oh, my God. -[both laughing]
-All right, I think we should go walk. -Yeah.
Yeah. Okay. [chuckles softly]
[Ingrid speaking in Portuguese]
[Brian] Mmm. Ah!
[in English] So yesterday, Ingrid told me that we need space again.
And as far as I'm concerned, we have space.
She's not even staying in the same apartment as me.
So really, I'm confused with that.
I don't know what space means anymore.
I know Ingrid's upset, but no matter what I say or do,
it always just seems that she's looking for another reason
or excuse to pull away
and create distance.
I only have a couple more days left in Brazil.
And I don't know how to move forward
because I feel like I've done everything
and I've tried my best,
and it just doesn't seem to be working.
[line ringing]
Hello!
-Hi, Brian. -[Brian] Hey, Reese.
How are you?
[Reese] I'm good. What's up?
Ugh. What's up? What's down?
It's been... It's been a journey.
Um, I'm out of Gurupi.
I'm in Recife now,
thinking that it would change...
a change of scenery would help.
And we went to dinner with my friend, Brian.
Conversation came up, marriage...
"Oh, you're married four times.
How many times you engaged?
How many women have you had?"
-So there was a lot of judging going on there. -Yeah.
So... Ingrid asked for some space...
-again. -[Reese] Oh.
[Brian] It's just ridiculous.
"You want space? We don't have time for space."
[Reese] But where do you think you're at with this?
[Brian] So even after all our ups and downs
and our conversations,
I thought it would bring us closer.
-Yeah. -And it just seems like there is no...
There's no care, there's no love.
Every time I go to kiss,
it's like grandma-kiss, peck on the mouth.
There's nothing there.
And you know that...
It's not that I need love, right?
I'm not needing, needing, needing, needing.
But it's that I want somebody special with me, you know.
And... it's just hard, you know.
After going through so much pain and heartbreak in my life...
I put a lot on this trip.
I came thinking that Ingrid...
Ingrid was the one, that this would be it.
And I don't... I don't know if that's...
true anymore.
I honestly feel like I'm being strung along.
So I just... I don't know what to do.
Yeah. Have a talk with her.
Yeah. It's time, you know...
You know? Like, "My feelings are in this.
I put time in this.
I put money in this.
I want to know what's going on."
You know, 'cause you don't want to keep getting hurt, you know.
You don't need that.
[Brian] I was planning to reach out to Ingrid, but she messaged me first.
And I'm glad she did, because it's time we talked.
It's time to be real with each other, be honest.
This trip has definitely not gone the way I expected,
and there's just something that's just not sitting right with me.
[both conversing in Portuguese]
[Brian in English] I'm feeling very anxious.
And I feel like I have a lot to get off my chest.
And I have a feeling she's not gonna like what I've got to say.
I want you as my boyfriend, and I want Rory as my friend.
I don't wanna choose.
I wanna make peace together.
Do you want to see him?
Sunny's emotions can be unpredictable.
And I don't know if Rory is feeling some type of way about Sunny
after how he behaved last night.
This meeting could be another total disaster.
I think he will propose to me before he will leave.
This is the person I want to spend the rest of my life with.
She is very adamant about me proposing,
but, like, it's way too early to make that decision.
I need to pump the brakes.
I just don't know how Magda's gonna handle it.
You said you wanna spend the rest of your life with me.
Baby, come here. Wow, this is amazing.
I can't believe I'm literally seeing monkeys in real life.
No. Come back!
[server speaking]
Thank you.
[server speaking]
[Veah] Thank you.
Last night, I introduced Rory and Sunny to each other,
and it didn't go well.
Sunny made me choose between him and Rory.
And I left Rory behind, and I chose Sunny.
But Sunny telling me to choose between him and my best friend
was really unfair, and I just felt really hurt by that.
I feel a little down and out
about what went down last night.
It was really hurtful to watch that.
[Sunny] I tried to be calm, but I couldn't
because when I see him, I have the jealousy problems comes out.
And I behaved the way I shouldn't behave. I did.
And for what?
He wants to keep you safe,
and I wanted to keep you safe, also.
The same thing.
[Veah] It just felt like such a hurtful situation
to be caught between...
you and Rory, you know.
And I just...
I just don't think it's fair
that I was put in a situation where I have to choose.
I don't wanna choose.
I want you as my boyfriend, and I want Rory as my friend.
[Sunny] So, babe...
And did you not ever thought about how I'm going to feel about it?
And I can't stand that.
I really don't wanna put you in situations that you need to choose.
But... keep your friendship at your home, not here.
Just that's what I want.
I understand and...
I... I could have probably...
been more honest from the beginning, with all of this,
and maybe things would have turned out better.
And I'm sorry that I didn't go about this in the right way.
But I think that if it's gonna cause...
I could text him today and tell him he can go home
so we can just have this time to focus on us
and our relationship.
Yeah, if you do that, I'll be really happy.
Okay.
Rory was willing to stay in Durban as long as I wanted him to.
But now that Sunny's being more reasonable with me
about this whole situation,
I feel more safe with him.
And I feel like Rory can go home.
I'm hoping this will help prove to Sunny
that I'm ready to move forward in our relationship
and build back our trust.
Rory wrote me back, and he said,
"Okay, I'll book a flight within the next few days."
That's cool.
I mean, like...
probably I'm also gonna see him before he goes.
You want to see him?
Yeah, because he's going back home.
And I want to be the bigger person.
Like, the way I behaved is not really okay for me.
I was talking so rubbish.
I shouldn't even done that to your friend.
He is here to make sure you are happy
or you are safe or you are not.
-That's what he wanted. -Yeah, that's all he wanted.
I know he helped you, and I totally did it wrong.
I want to make peace together.
Okay, I'm happy.
I think it's nice that Sunny wants to see Rory again
and make peace.
It definitely shows some maturity on his part.
But I'm a little nervous about this
because his emotions can be unpredictable.
And I don't know if Rory is feeling some type of way about Sunny
after how he behaved last night.
I really want them both in my life.
Like, I love them both.
But I'm worried this meeting
could be another total disaster.
And I just don't know how we would come back from that.
♪♪ I like the top down ♪
♪♪ I like it turned up loud ♪
♪♪ I like your shirt off ♪
♪♪ You're pretty when you pop ♪
♪♪ I beg your pardon ♪
♪♪ I saw you drink my milk ♪
♪♪ Straight out the carton... ♪
[Joe] Are you ticklish?
[Magda giggles]
[Joe] Oh, it's hot in here.
Ooh!
Good morning.
Mavis!
♪♪ I ain't crying if it's real, no ♪
♪♪ We're cut from the same cloth ♪
♪♪ Two peas in the same pod ♪
♪♪ Oh, my freaking God... ♪
Is the dog in the bed all the time?
-Yes. -Do you have a big bed,
small bed, like this size?
-Bigger than that. -Oh, okay, thank God.
Because it's a tight squeeze with this guy in this bed.
-He's a mama's boy. -Not that I didn't enjoy it.
I had a great time.
Because you're a good boy.
Probably he wants to go for a walk.
Yeah.
What's the word for "stop"?
Let me write this down.
"Make a poop." It's...
[repeating in foreign language]
[in English] Got it. We're ready now.
All right, so I'm gonna take him for a walk.
And then, um,
we're gonna go to your village/town/city.
Yeah, it's my apartment.
Okay, I got this.
What could possibly go wrong?
We have finished our stay in Krakow.
Damn. So this goes in his neck?
It doesn't hurt?
No, it's not hurt him.
It looks like something you'd use in the bedroom, maybe.
What?
[Joe imitating] "What?"
So we're leaving this hot and stuffy apartment,
and we're taking a ride to Bedzin.
That's how you say it. Good. Nailed it.
We're goin' to Bedzin,
and we're gonna see Magda's hometown.
It's very important to get to know Magda better
and, you know, just see her day-to-day life.
Come on, buddy.
I gotta get you some matching sunglasses,
and then we can roll in style.
Oh, my gosh, what is the [bleep] mess here?
If we will, I don't know, buy a big house in the future,
I don't want to see something like that.
Every day, I feel more safe with Joe,
and he show me every day more love.
But, yesterday,
Joe meet my friends
and I was surprised when Joe said
he's not sure to take marriage soon.
I don't know what he thinks right now
because he knows, like,
I think so he will to propose to me
before he will leave.
This is the person I want to spend
the rest of my life with.
So if he will feel it after one week,
um, of course I will say yes.
I will say yes, even today.
I actually cuddled with a dog last night.
A 95-pound dog,
who is known for biting penises.
He's excellent in bed.
Last night, I met Magda's friends.
I thought it went pretty good.
But it is a little bit of a surprise, like,
that she's expecting a proposal
in a short amount of time.
And then the friends said
that she moved to Germany for a guy.
Whoa, whoa, whoa! Dude, dude, dude, dude, dude!
Dude!
It's just the fact that she's so willing to move
and uproot her life for someone so quickly.
It definitely scares me a little bit.
I don't know if this is like good or bad.
Okay.
That's cool.
Aah!
Come on.
The way she's talking like that,
she's coming to America and, like,
everything's gonna happen,
I mean, it is like a lot
in a short amount of time.
Right, buddy? Are you stressed out?
She is very adamant about me proposing,
but I'm not going to do that until I'm like 100% sure.
Like, it's way too early to make that decision.
And like I-- We have to see how it goes.
Let's go, dude.
Boys come back.
Hello!
[speaking in foreign language]
[in English] How was the walk?
It was good.
Swam in a fountain, which was cool.
So we're ready to leave, right?
-We have to check out of here? -[Magda] Yes.
Yeah.
I'm really gonna miss this very cool...
well air-conditioned place.
[chuckles] Yeah.
I really like being with Magda.
I feel like we have a really good connection
and I can definitely picture
ourselves being together and getting married.
But I do think things are moving too quickly.
Left.
[Joe] It's just a lot.
I know I do need to talk to her
and tell her, "You need to pump the brakes."
I just don't know how Magda's gonna handle it.
Are you ready?
I'm ready.
Are you ready?
[barks]
[Joe chuckles]
Earlier today, Matilda found out that I lost my job,
and things are a little tense right now.
No, I'm pretty [bleep] far from okay.
♪♪ Tempo ♪
♪♪ She say I move too slow Pick up the tempo ♪
♪♪ Slow down, girl Don't miss my tempo ♪
♪♪ It's a holy ground just like a temple ♪
♪♪ I'm a stamina man ♪
♪♪ I'm sentimental ♪
♪♪ Don't miss my tempo ♪
♪♪ You see the girl care me She wants salvation ♪
♪♪ She continue We on rotation ♪
♪♪ She don't trust in me ♪
♪♪ That's motivation ♪
♪♪ I say demand them flight for information... ♪
So are we gonna get your dress?
Oh, you can get mine, though.
Okay.
Tomorrow, Matilda and I are getting married,
but things are a little tense right now.
Earlier today, Matilda found out that I lost my job.
And I realized I don't have enough money
to cover all of the wedding expenses.
Here's the room key.
Luckily, Matilda was able to borrow
just a little bit of money from her brother
to cover the cost of our wedding clothes.
But, first thing in the morning,
I had to ask Mr. Ark if he would loan me some money.
If he won't help me pay for the rest of this wedding,
I don't know where we go from there.
Without that money, well, there's no ceremony.
And on top of the stress of the wedding,
there's a very important phone call
I need to take care of.
[line ringing]
Hey, Mom, how you doing?
Oh, nothing. I just got back to the room
and I've had a day today.
I've been putting off calling to update my parents
because they still have their doubts about Matilda.
But at the same time, they are still my parents,
and I believe that as a common courtesy,
I should tell them
I'm coming home a married man.
I've been holding on to hope that my parents
will come around and change their minds.
But this is my last chance for their approval.
The clock is ticking, so it's now or never.
So, yeah, the knocking--
the-- the-- knocking ceremony is tomorrow,
and I've known her for two years
and I want to be married.
I want to get-- get--
get to the next step of my life here.
So I'm getting married.
You know what, Father?
I am ready to be married.
This is a person that I do in fact know.
This is a person that has been honest with me,
has been truthful with me.
If I had to actually design a woman for me,
this would be who that is.
What makes you think that I am not rational?
Am I saying things that...
that makes you think that I'm not rational?
I've been wait-- Father.
I've been-- I've given it two freaking years.
Just-- just-- Should I give--
Should I give it 20 years or something?
Hey, Father, I do suggest you guys
at least talk to her first before you say that.
I think-- I suggest you at least try--
You won't be talking to her?
Okay.
Yes, sir. All right.
Well, I love you guys.
I just wanted to tell you guys this.
All right.
Bye.
No, I'm pretty [bleep] far from okay.
In fact, you know what?
After two years, as we see,
there are certain things you can't fake.
She is who she is.
I am what I am.
She says, "Well, what are you gonna do in six months
when they change in six months?"
I'm like, "I've changed a lot myself in six months."
Who I was six months ago is not who I am now.
Hell, who I am at the start of this trip
is not who I am now.
To hear my parents say
that they can't support my marriage,
well, there is not a word that I can give you
to-- to-- to express how painful it is.
You don't even have to mean it.
"I am happy for you, son."
Those are six words.
But tomorrow is the happiest moment of my life.
I am not going to let them take this moment from me.
I talked to my parents.
They're saying how they don't approve of this.
They don't like what we're doing.
I don't know.
How am I going to live in your country?
You'll have me, won't you?
You will not be by my side.
And I can understand why you might be apprehensive,
but as long as I'm around, as long as I can,
you're not completely alone.
[Matilda] I was very sad to hear
that Niles' parents are still against our relationship.
I know Niles' parents think that I am a scammer.
But now that your son has seen me for real,
why can't you agree...
for us to get married?
I love Niles more than everything.
But, right now, I am feeling scared,
because when I go to America,
I would have no support from Niles' family.
So I'm praying to God that the future in America
is the right thing for me to do.
[sighs]
Last night, I don't know,
I don't think I was flirting with anybody.
It's very hard for me to believe what he says,
because from the start, he cheated on me.
Is this-- is this so much that you can't get over it?
Forty-five. Right. Just take that, right?
Oh, yeah.
[Jessa Mae] Room check. Housekeeping.
[speaking in foreign language]
-[Jessa Mae in English] Hi. -[Loren] Hello.
Good afternoon.
Yeah?
Okay.
[speaking in foreign language]
Okay.
-[in English] Bye. -Thank you.
-Bye, sir. -Bye.
After our trip to Leyte, I was hoping that last night
was going to be a big step for us.
We had our first kiss,
and I thought it might even lead to something more.
But then, he betrayed me again.
[Loren] Did you want to go somewhere and talk?
Besides this hallway?
Let's go.
Come on.
[Faith] I am very disappointed
because I defend him to my friends,
only for him to do it again and again.
Why would he even flirt with other people?
It gives me the question of myself
if Loren truly love me.
It's very nice.
[Loren] Very nice.
So last night, I don't know,
I don't think I was flirting with anybody.
The one who saw you is my best friend.
Yeah.
It was outside or inside?
Outside.
Your friend might have seen something,
but I didn't talk to the drag queens outside.
I talked to those kids.
What? What do you mean?
Okay, so when we left the bar, some guy walked up to me.
And he said, "My friend thinks you're cute,"
which was a girl
in a striped dress that was gray.
I walked over to her and did one of these.
I actually did.
And I said, "Sure, you're too young for me.
And I'm here to be with my beautiful girlfriend."
So I did not flirt with a drag queen.
I denied the flirting of a random girl.
But your friends were right here,
so they overheard the whole thing.
I've been racking my brain
to figure out what this whole thing is about.
Faith said it was a drag queen.
That's why I didn't get it.
I mean, like if I was flirting with a drag queen,
I would have known.
And then I thought about the girl
outside the drag club.
So Faith's friend, Len,
must have saw me from across the street,
jump to conclusions,
and rile Faith up based on a misunderstanding.
[Faith speaking]
So I just want to know, are you real with me?
I am real with you. That's why I'm on this roof.
I'm there with you and your friends.
We're on thin ice.
Why on Earth would I do that when I'm here to be with you
and you're already upset with me all the time,
this whole trip.
If I was gonna do that,
I wouldn't have come back to the hotel.
I'd just go home with the drag queen, right?
If I'm willing to just risk our relationship just...
la-di-da.
I don't know.
It's very hard for me to believe what he says,
because from the start, he cheated on me.
Yes. I was drinking,
and I shouldn't have got that close to her.
But I acknowledge I did do it.
That did happen.
I'm owning up to it.
[Loren] I don't think I did anything wrong.
I was having a conversation with a girl, turning her down.
She had the courage to come up and say hi to me,
interested in me, you know?
And if I did the same thing to somebody else,
I wouldn't want to just be instantly rejected.
So I did show her a little bit of affection
with the hand motion
and telling her at the same time,
"I'm not interested in you."
So despite me sleeping with other people
and making my mistakes in the past,
I feel like I'm super-committed to Faith,
and I hope she can see and appreciate that.
I really do love you.
Even if...
Sometimes you're like, that boy probably doesn't love me.
He's ridiculous. He's crazy. I do love you.
And I do care about you.
And I am sorry that I did that.
Is this-- Is this so much that you can't get over it?
So M-- Maybe next time
-you cannot do that? -[Loren] Yes.
No more slightly flirtatious, touching...
Anything.
And hopefully by then I have a ring on
and then I'll be like, "Look, I'm married."
This guy, off limits.
[Faith] Yeah.
[Loren] Maybe we should just stop talking about this.
And try and be happy.
With our Philippines fun vacation.
[in English]
[Loren] That's right, on a plane. And it's gonna suck.
Because I've said goodbye to you.
[laughs]
It's gonna suck... [chuckles]
A lot.
[Faith in English]
You make me emotional?
[Faith] Mmm-hmm.
Seeing Loren emotional and knowing that he doesn't
want me to give up on him.
Makes me feel like he really cares about me.
But ever since he's been here
in the Philippines, it's lots of drama.
Just lots of things happen.
I'm worried because I don't know
if I'll ever be able to trust him.
[in Filipino]
[Loren in English] But are you ready to go?
You want to go do something fun?
Lighten the mood?
As boyfriend and girlfriend.
-Yeah. -Yeah.
[Joe] So you moved to Germany.
How long were you dating
before you moved there?
[in English]
Pretty quick.
I think it's important to wait a little bit.
I don't want to, like, put a timeline
necessarily on like all these things.
[Magda in English] I don't get it.
I won't be with him.
I'm 100% sure about my feelings.
And now I feel
like he is not sure about me.
[Joe in Polish]
[in English] Interesting.
[Joe] What's going on? What is this?
They look like little IHOP's
You think they have pancakes and waffles?
[Magda] No.
[in English] Joe is just a few days in Poland
and we just arrived in Bedzin.
So we decided to go to the shops
to buy some food for us.
[Joe] This is very interesting.
I've never seen something like this.
I'm so excited to show him my town with my mom.
And show him more about my life.
Um, am I cooking?
Can I cook for you tonight?
Yeah.
-[Joe in Polish] -[shopkeeper speaking]
[Joe in Polish]
[in English] Is that right?
-[Magda in Polish] -[Joe in Polish]
[in Polish]
[continues in Polish]
[Magda whispers in Polish]
[chuckles]
[in English]
It's gonna be my first night in Magda's apartment,
so I'm gonna make Magda a nice little romantic dinner.
I wouldn't say I'm like a great cook,
but cooking is definitely a way
for me to show affection or that I care about someone.
It's also a way to eat,
and I care about eating,
and I will enjoy doing it.
[in Polish]
[Joe in English] Crushed that.
How many flights is this going up?
We're almost there.
[Joe] Wow.
Wow.
[in English]
Feel like it's your house.
[Joe] I can give myself a tour?
Perfect. Perfect.
It's definitely small and cozy.
Is this your trophy thing?
I like that you got bourbon.
I mean, for a 23-year-old girl that lives by herself.
I get it. That's all she really needs.
I like your teddy bears, Magda.
But it's a lot with the 90 pound Dobermann
and a cat and me in there. Absolutely. Yeah.
Hey, big guy.
You can cook with Hades,
and I have to pick up uh...
[in English]
Got it. I can handle this.
So we're just trying to make pasta and meat sauce.
Just go with what we have.
Even though this is a romantic evening,
I think it is important that me and Magda
have a conversation regarding our future
and I'm hoping that she can see why
I think it's important to not rush into things,
especially when we're talking about marriage.
Oh, hello!
Hi.
-She's a little nervous. -How was it?
Okay.
[Joe] Are you hungry and excited for this dinner?
Yes, baby. I'm so excited.
What's up, girl?
Come here often.
[chuckles]
[Magda] Mmm-mmm. Hmm.
[Joe] Better eat all that.
[in English]
Um, yeah. I like your apartment.
I like the bed.
Um, so the teddy bears in your room
they're from guys or from girls?
The teddy bears from my friends
for Valentine's Day.
Some people care of me when I was single
to not be alone.
So they're just from friends.
Yes, it is just one thing.
I have this moment from my ex.
Just one thing.
What's that?
[in English]
[Joe] Got it.
So did you move to Germany with your ex-boyfriend?
Do you like-- Is that common
to move to other countries, for people
[in English]
-Just one time. Okay. -[Magda] Yeah.
[Joe] How long were you dating
the ex in Germany before you moved there?
Mmm...
Three months.
Three months? Pretty quickly.
But...
[in English]
Never thought of it like that.
It's interesting.
-[Magda] Yeah? -Interesting view point.
But now let's say you want to move quick with marriage.
How would that help?
You know, I mean, let's say you marry this guy instead of dating him.
And then you found out he was a cheater after two months?
I feel that method works with dating someone.
I don't know about marrying someone.
Because then you have to go through a whole divorce
and all these things that are ugly about marriage.
So I think it's important to wait a little bit, you know, before...
...the marriage part.
It's like, it's important to spend
-a decent amount of time together. -Come.
Come.
I don't know why you start this conversation right now,
like I didn't tell like you have to propose to me tomorrow.
Well, I just wanna see how it goes, right?
Like I'm not uh...
I don't wanna, like, put like a timeline necessarily,
I'm like, a proposal? I want...
I don't know. It's a lot.
You said to me a few days ago,
you won't spend the rest of your life with me.
We spoke a lot of times about it, and I bought tickets
to U. S. A. already.
And you didn't sound before
like you have some worry about it.
Worry about me.
Now you make this conversation
[bleep] romantic dinner.
I don't get it.
We had a plan to me, to going to USA
pretty soon, and I will stay one month
and I will meet his parents and family.
And then later I will come back
and start a new life in America.
But he has to propose because I can't move to America
without green cards,
and I won't be with him.
I'm 100% sure about my feelings.
And now I feel like he is not sure about me.
[in English]
And I will not waste more of my time.
[Magda continues in English]
Please feel free to help on the vehicle.
[Rory] I think because we didn't clear the air,
there is still some hostility going on.
[in English]
Don't say anything you're gonna regret.
[Brian] I need to confront Ingrid about her
feelings towards me
and find out if this relationship
with me is real.
[in Portuguese]
[Veah] Wow, this is pretty.
I shall take a picture.
Yay! We're here.
[Sunny] We are here finally,
[Rory] What's up, guys?
You've been waiting on us?
Yeah, a little bit.
[Rory] What have you guys been up to?
[chuckles] Nothing, really.
I mean, what did we do?
We saw monkeys yesterday.
-That's what's up. -[Veah] Yeah.
[Sunny in English]
I did. Yeah.
I'm flying out tomorrow morning.
[in English]
I know you are.
[chuckles]
[Sunny] Seeing Rory I feel a little bit nervous.
I don't know what to say.
Like, I don't know how I'm gonna try to apologize,
but she chose me.
She shows me that how much she loves me.
She cares about me.
Good day. Ladies and gentlemen.
Welcome to Gwahumbe
My name is Simon. I'll be taking care of you.
Please feel free to hop on the vehicle.
Thank you.
[Sunny in English]
[Rory] Ah, man!
We're gonna see the animals.
[Simon] All right, ladies and gents,
let's make our way.
Let's go have some fun.
I'm excited. I don't know about you guys.
[Rory] When she asked me to come with them to the safari,
I didn't think it was weird.
It's weird seeing them today.
After that debacle, we had.
I think because we didn't clear the air.
There's still some hostility going on.
But as long as he's not an asshole to me,
we should be fine.
I guess we'll see.
-This is pretty. -It is.
Oh, my God! I see animals.
I probably saw these on TV.
Those things are huge.
[Veah] Look over there.
That's so cute.
What the heck?
Wow!
Those are huge.
-[grunts] -Hi, babies.
[Simon] So that baby was born a month ago now.
-[Veah] Aw... -[Simon] You can see it's growing quite fast.
[in English]
So what you're looking at here,
we call the Plain Zebra.
Wait. So the baby zebra is brown?
[Simon] Yep. It's the only species with brown straps
in between the black and white.
[Rory] Wow.
[Simon speaking]
[Veah] Really?
So the mama is the one standing close to it.
[Simon speaking]
-[Rory] Okay. -What the [bleep]
What's the thing dangling?
[all laughing]
[Sunny speaking]
-Hung like a zebra-- -[in English]
[Rory] That's how he waves.
You see him waving?
[all chuckling]
[Sunny in English]
I get it, Sunny.
But honestly, I don't think Sunny
has a reason to be jealous.
We won't get into it, but you get what I'm saying.
He's all red. His skin's so beet red.
[Veah] They're beautiful.
[engine starts]
Wow.
Oh, my God, I've never seen one of those before.
[Rory] Wow.
[Veah] What is that?
It's a pig.
[Simon speaking]
[all laughing]
What the [bleep]
[Rory speaking]
[Veah] It does look like a pinch.
[Sunny] The black one.
[in English]
[Simon speaking]
Would this be an okay area for you
Go behind the bush?
Or would you like something a bit bigger.
[Veah] Behind that bush?
[Simon] Yeah.
[Veah] Are there snakes that are gonna come out and bite me?
[Simon] Uh, no, you should be safe.
[Veah] Okay? I just don't want it to bite my ass.
I'm just gonna squat.
-[metal clangs] -[Veah] Ow!
[chuckles] I hit my head.
I'm gonna get some brain damage from that.
[in English]
I'm enjoying the Safari, man. It's beautiful.
[Sunny speaking]
So I'm sorry, but once you're gone,
everything will be go well, that's what I know because--
Don't say anything you're gonna regret.
I don't have anything wrong with you.
That's how our fighting has been going, you know.
But I'm feeling so guilty that the way I talk to you,
the way I react with you
and we don't even know each other even.
Because I don't want you to hold
something in your heart about me.
I want to say really sorry from my heart.
The way I behaved with you
because I didn't have any right
to talk to you like that.
Yeah, that's-- that's not how I...
wanted that situation to play out at all.
I mean, moving forward,
man, you just got to be respectful.
No, that's what, I'm going to really work on myself,
because I do have that type of problems.
Can't control myself.
So that's why I'm trying to work on it.
But I'm hoping that everything's going to go well.
[Rory] Because of the first interaction we had,
I didn't know what kind of situation was going to happen today
And kudos to him for actually apologizing.
He seems like he really cares about her.
She seems pretty happy.
But it sounds like he still has issues
with jealousy and insecurity.
I don't know. I don't know what to think of that situation.
Honestly.
I'm glad we got to talk it out and make amends.
Thank you so much. You understand me?
I really appreciate that.
-[Veah] You guys are cool. -Yeah, we are cool.
We are good. Are you happy?
Yeah, I'm happy.
-Thank you. -Thank you.
You're welcome, baby.
Should we go see more animals?
Yeah. Let's go see some more animals.
[Simon] Sure.
We had so much fun.
I decided to invite Josko
back over to my apartment
and see where the night takes us.
[in English]
Uh, so my mom told me
that I was actually conceived in Split.
Oh, jeez, that's a nice thing to share.
-[Vanja] I could have died not knowing that. -[Josko] Yeah.
[both chuckle]
[Josko] Thanks for sharing.
-[Vanja] Okay. Here we are. -Yeah.
[beeping]
-[doorbell buzzes] -[Vanja] Okay.
[Josko] All right.
After this amazing kayak date,
we had so much fun.
I decided to invite Josko, go back over to my apartment
and see where the night takes us.
All right. Home sweet home.
-Here we are. -Thank you.
[Josko in English]
[Vanja] I can't take any credit,
but it's wonderful.
Move over.
There we go.
Uh, food. Yes.
[in English]
-Oh, actually sunset. -[Josko speaking]
Sunset times two.
[in English]
[Vanja chuckles] Um...
Well, I have a lot of guy friends
-who are bodybuilders they're vegan. -Yeah?
-They're vegan. They're huge. -[Josko] Oh.
-Oh, my God. -Yeah.
Beetroot bun, crispy tofu.
Yay. [chuckles]
[Vanja] Well, I'm glad you're open-minded.
[Josko speaking]
[Vanja chuckles softly]
Uh, actually, I, um,
-I came here to meet a guy. -[Josko] Okay.
And I came here
-and he wanted to just be friends. -[Josko] Okay.
-Weird. -[Vanja] It's so weird.
[Vanja] Yeah, he said he didn't feel, uh,
romantic chemistry towards me.
So, yeah, that didn't work out.
I know.
[Vanja] Yeah.
[Josko speaking]
Uh, well, I mean,
it's obviously, it's like, what the hell?
-[laughs] -Yeah.
But it left me an opportunity
-to meet somebody else. -[Josko] Yeah.
[Vanja] I did. Way better.
-Yeah? -[Vanja laughs]
-Yes. -[Josko speaking]
-Way better. Yeah. -[Josko] Love to hear it, yeah.
Yeah.
What? You're just looking at me.
[Josko] Mm-hmm.
I don't understand how this is happening
that I'm feeling so comfortable with him
and we literally just met.
It just feels like our souls
are connected and have been connected,
and now we're just physically meeting.
[knock at door]
[Vanja speaking]
I definitely feel the difference, um,
between what is, um, transpiring
between Josko and I versus Bozo and I.
You know, Bozo was not giving me anything.
I mean, there was no hand holding.
There was no hugs. There was nothing.
Thank you.
But with Josko,
it's just...
Sparks are flying on both sides.
Our physical connection is incredible.
Our conversation is incredible.
We're finding things about one another
that we have in common.
It's just, like,
literally a dream come true.
[Josko] Mm. Yum.
-[Vanja] Hungry? -[Josko] Yeah. You?
[Vanja] Yeah, I want to try this.
[Josko speaking]
[Vanja] It's all right.
So you always lived in Split?
[Josko speaking]
-Wow. -[Josko] Yeah.
How cool. Wow.
[Josko speaking]
-What's his name? -[Josko speaking]
-Oh, that's so cool. -[Josko] Yeah.
Wow.
So you don't mind changing diapers and all that?
Wow. That is so cool.
It's so rare to hear a man say that.
-Yeah. -[Vanja] I love that.
It's very commendable that he is fostering a child.
And to me,
the fact that he did it on his own,
like, a single male, which is
kind of unheard of, not just
in America, you know, where we're
a little bit more open with that stuff,
but in Croatia.
Um, it's just, it's to me, it's wow.
I just love that about him.
I think that it makes him even a better person.
So how did you find him?
It's not legal, right?
-[Josko speaking] -Yeah.
-[Vanja] That's amazing. -[Josko] Mm-hmm.
[Vanja] Oh. I get it.
It does take a whole family.
[both laugh]
[Josko speaking]
[Vanja] There's still a lot of food. It's delicious.
If you want more, you can have mine.
[Josko] No. This is good for me.
-Thank you. -Yeah.
Okay. I'm putting the rest of this in the fridge then.
[Josko speaking]
[Vanja] I feel crazy connected to him.
But at this point in my life,
I haven't been thinking about myself
as a potential mom. So,
you know, this has kind of been thrown at me out of the blue.
But I am open to, you know, being a potential stepmom
for a child, um, you know,
with a partner that I love,
if the relationship is the right one for me and I see us
having a future together.
So when do I get to see you again?
[Josko speaking]
-[Vanja speaking] -[Josko speaking]
[Vanja speaking]
[Vanja] That being said,
I do wonder about how things could go for us
after I leave Croatia.
We would be long distance,
and I don't know how he would be able to visit me
when he has a one-year-old at home.
I'm a little bit scared about getting too close too fast
only to have things not work out
and to end up with my heart broken again.
Have you guys had time to meet Sunny's family at all?
No. He hasn't taken me.
He was just telling me I need to cover up my tattoos,
like, dress more modest.
Yeah. I want that...
[Veah speaking]
It's not you changing who you are.
So you think I should compromise myself
and cover up my tattoos?
You're being a selfish right now.
[Sunny] They're running, though.
[Veah] This must be a real nice life out here.
Oh, my God, there's something over there.
Oh look, it's my ex. You see the wildebeests?
[all laughing]
[Veah] What ex? Not me?
-I know you're not talking about me. -[Rory] You. You.
You wildebeest.
[all laughing]
-Stop making fun of me. -[Sunny laughs]
Now that Rory and Sunny have made up
and are getting along,
I feel really happy about it.
[tour guide] Well, feel free to hop off. What we'll do is
make our way to the waterfall. It should be safe.
I feel like we're in a better position right now
and he accept my apology, I'm glad,
because Veah want me to be friend with him.
[Veah] Yeah. And I want Sunny to see that
Rory can and is supportive
of mine and his relationship.
[tour guide] It is safe. I don't see any hippos or crocodiles.
So feel free to just walk around. Enjoy yourselves.
-Okay. -Awesome.
[Rory speaking]
[Veah speaking]
[Sunny speaking]
-[Veah] All right. I'm gonna go down here. -[Rory] Yeah.
So, uh, what else have you guys been up to?
Have you met...
Have you guys had time to meet Sunny's family at all?
No. He hasn't taken me yet to meet them.
He's hiding me.
-No. I'm not hiding her. -[Veah] He's embarrassed. Yes, you are.
It's not that.
My family knows about her.
-But what is it? -[Sunny] It's just I haven't
take any girl to my family.
And I never did that before in my life.
I just think
you don't think that they're going to accept me,
because when I met his friend,
he was just telling me I need to cover up my tattoos,
like, dress more modest.
-Yeah, I want that... -[Veah] And then change who I am.
It's not you changing who you are.
I'm not asking you to remove your tattoos.
I'm just asking you to cover up your tattoos
when you're meeting my parents.
I don't think that's too much to ask for, Vee.
Especially if it's a cultural thing.
You have to respect that at a certain point.
Would you like it if somebody told you
to cover your tattoos to go around them?
But you're being a selfish right now.
I'm not a selfish.
[Rory speaking]
She is a very stubborn person.
She's very stuck in her ways.
And I have to sit back and laugh because it's...
his turn to suffer.
But, I mean, a more traditional religion,
you got to respect it.
You have to make those sacrifices.
If they want to be together,
she's just gonna have to shut up and wear a turtleneck, I guess.
You bring this trouble from Houston to here
and I tolerate everything. I swallow my pride.
And I listen to you, whatever you say.
I'm asking for the same thing, do for me.
[Veah] I don't know.
I don't want to feel rejected by your parents.
If I need to cover my tattoos, I will.
But I wouldn't bring you to my family and, like,
tell you to change who you are.
So I don't want the same thing.
You know my background, Sunny.
-I do. -[Veah] And you know it was hard.
-You know? -[Sunny] I do understand.
But you need to understand, how can we win them?
Not like, "Hey,
you need to accept me. I love your son."
But, okay.
But just understand my situation.
That's what I'm asking for, babe.
Okay.
You said to me a few days ago
you want to spend rest of your life with me.
And I bought ticket
to USA already.
And I will not waste more of my time.
But I want to,
you know, like, make sure we can trust and love each other first.
I think it's fair.
You don't trust and you don't love me right now?
No, I trust and love you. I was just saying,
like, it's important to wait a certain amount of time.
[Magda] I'm not pushing you to anything.
No, I didn't mean like pushing.
I was just saying, like...
I was agreeing that it's important
to spend time in case either of us change.
It's okay. You don't have to propose me at all.
And we don't have to take marriage.
-[Joe sighs] -I don't care anymore.
Yeah, okay.
I'm tired.
I want to clean and go to sleep.
[Joe] It's definitely 100% not my intention to
create any type of argument.
Honestly, from all this,
most of the worry is the way she reacted.
Are you mad at me?
I'm sorry. I really don't want to ruin the evening.
[Magda speaking]
[Joe chuckles]
I'm conflicted on what to do,
because I need more time
to understand her,
to try to figure out
why she's so adamant
about marriage and children with someone that she never,
you know, spent time with in person,
and really just find out if her intentions are pure.
But if she refuses to wait,
I don't know how we're gonna
resolve and move forward.
[Magda] Okay, I changed. I'm going to sleep,
so, uh...
do whatever you want to do.
-Good night. -Good night.
[Magda] It's really confusing.
I don't know what to feel right now.
Like, I didn't do anything wrong.
He make a lot of mistakes, but not me.
I don't know. I'm such a good person for him
all the [bleep] time.
And I don't want to be with person
he will show me every week he change his mind.
I want to be with person
he from the beginning will be sure about his feelings.
He wants me to trust him.
But how I can trust him
when he is not sure about all of it.
[Joe exhales]
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] There's something in my gut
that's telling me that she's not here for the right reasons.
You're not being real with me.
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] For the last three weeks,
things with Ingrid have been a constant struggle.
So I need to
confront Ingrid about her feelings towards me
and find out if this relationship with me is real.
It's possible that
I am wrong with everything I've been feeling.
And I'm hoping she can convince me that
she has genuine feelings for me.
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
[in English] Yeah.
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
[in Portuguese]
[in English] It's confusing.
[in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] I really want to believe what Ingrid's saying.
I really, deep in my heart,
I want to believe what she's saying to me.
But what she's showing me in her actions is just...
They're just not matching up.
I was ready to do whatever necessary
and whatever it took to be with Ingrid
for the rest of my life.
But there's something in my gut that's
telling me that she's not here for the right reasons.
[in Portuguese]
[in English] You're not being real with me.
[in Portuguese]
[Matilda] Next time on Before the 90 Days...
[mimics gobbling]
-Where is is it? -[laughs]
[Tigerlily] Today is Thanksgiving,
and Adnan's family
is gonna be here in just a few hours.
And Adnan is just sitting there.
Baby, what does it mean on the oven when it's a picture of a cloud?
[Tigerlily] And a fan.
[Tigerlily] And a light bulb.
[Tigerlily] Oh, my gosh.
[Loren and Faith speaking foreign language]
-[Loren] We have this one. -[Faith] Mm-hmm.
And then we pull it, right? And there's a string.
My trip to the Philippines is almost over.
So I need to find out if Faith is willing to commit.
And at the end of the string,
there's a ring.
[Joe] I didn't say, like, I don't want to spend my life with you.
I've never...
even had these conversations without being, like,
intimate with someone.
[Magda speaking]
No, it doesn't make it con... Well, I mean...
Okay, so...
There is a lot to pay for.
And I'm gonna be asking a lot here, but...
I am gonna need some financial help.
[Mr. Arc speaking]
Why?
[Ingrid, in Portuguese]
[Brian, in English] How things went down with Ingrid,
It's not sitting right with me.
[in Portuguese]
-[Veah, in English] Hello. -[man] Hello, how are you?
[Veah] Mm-mm.
[Veah] Can you just get up, please?